Iseesky
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I have two good friends. Holly and Jane. I'm very close to Jane, but don't do a lot with her because she doesn't like to leave the house (like me, she has anxiety issues and I recently learned she is depressed as well).
Holly and I went for a walk one day and I was talking about Jane for a few minutes. Basically, I expressed my concern that Jane doesn't contact us anymore and that she doesn't want to hang out like she used to. I told her that she's going to regret it one day. I said that she might have a cheap husband who doesn't like to vacation and kids at home to look after. I felt like (and still feel like) everything I said was completely innocent and shouldn't have been taken seriously. Holly said nothing.
Holly then texted everything I had said to Jane. However, she told Jane not to tell me what she said and also made up a bunch of crap. She told Jane that I said her and Holly would one day marry controlling men who wouldn't let them do anything. Holly told Jane that she stood up for her by raising her voice and telling me that not all women end up with controlling boyfriends and husbands (she used her own boyfriend as an example of that).
Luckily, Jane didn't think I'd say such things and she called to ask me. She told me exactly what Holly told her and I told her it was crap. I did tell her what I originally told Holly though and she understood. We talked for a long time and she told me the reason she hasn't been seeing us much is because she's been depressed the past few months.
We're upset at Holly, but aren't sure how to go about it. Normally, when someone causes conflict in my life like that, I just dump them and have nothing to do with them from then on. But, since Holly, Jane and I are...or were...so close, I don't think it'll be that easy. Especially since Holly loves her drama!
I don't know what to do. I want to mention something to Holly by beating around the bush (because I don't want to get Jane into trouble for telling me what she said and Jane doesn't want Holly to know she's depressed because she fears she'll tell other random people), but I don't know how to. I don't want to just do nothing, but I don't know what else to do. :|
Thanks for reading this...I appreciate it.
Holly and I went for a walk one day and I was talking about Jane for a few minutes. Basically, I expressed my concern that Jane doesn't contact us anymore and that she doesn't want to hang out like she used to. I told her that she's going to regret it one day. I said that she might have a cheap husband who doesn't like to vacation and kids at home to look after. I felt like (and still feel like) everything I said was completely innocent and shouldn't have been taken seriously. Holly said nothing.
Holly then texted everything I had said to Jane. However, she told Jane not to tell me what she said and also made up a bunch of crap. She told Jane that I said her and Holly would one day marry controlling men who wouldn't let them do anything. Holly told Jane that she stood up for her by raising her voice and telling me that not all women end up with controlling boyfriends and husbands (she used her own boyfriend as an example of that).
Luckily, Jane didn't think I'd say such things and she called to ask me. She told me exactly what Holly told her and I told her it was crap. I did tell her what I originally told Holly though and she understood. We talked for a long time and she told me the reason she hasn't been seeing us much is because she's been depressed the past few months.
We're upset at Holly, but aren't sure how to go about it. Normally, when someone causes conflict in my life like that, I just dump them and have nothing to do with them from then on. But, since Holly, Jane and I are...or were...so close, I don't think it'll be that easy. Especially since Holly loves her drama!
I don't know what to do. I want to mention something to Holly by beating around the bush (because I don't want to get Jane into trouble for telling me what she said and Jane doesn't want Holly to know she's depressed because she fears she'll tell other random people), but I don't know how to. I don't want to just do nothing, but I don't know what else to do. :|
Thanks for reading this...I appreciate it.