Other peoples reactions??

[BEA]

Do people know about your HH?

The only person that knows about mine is my girlfriend - she taught me to drive & there was no hiding the sweat on the stearing wheel! She tries not to make a big deal out of it & claims she doesn't notice it but I'm self-conscious anyway (especially in the more 'intimate' moments)

What have other people's reactions been when you've told them?
Do they take it as seriously as you do?
Do they realise how much it effects you?

If people close to you don't know, how do you hide it?

 

[darknight]

you can't

 

[grissom]

sey

ive been hiding it from my boyfriend for a year and a half, he thinks people who sweat more than usual are gross - as i found out today. he commented on someone having huge sweat patches and i couldnt do anythin but agree that it was gross but really i was angry and sad inside, particularly cos i know i cant tell him in the future now he's said that cos he wont wanna be with someone who sweats constantly

 

[galgal]

grissom- i'm amazed that you have hid it for this long! i haven't told my bf but we've only been together for 4 months, so i think i will tell him when it comes up. don't you think he will find out eventually? also, how can you continue to be with someone that is so ignorant and rude? if he wouldn't want to be with you if he knew that you sweat a lot, then he's just shallow and doesn't deserve you!

 

[sirblimey]

im somewhat seeing this girl and straight off the bat i told her i have HH and specially on situation where i get aroused and etc...

but the best thing about her is that she understands and continues to hold my hand. i do wipe it at times or if in the car i put my hands by the vents to dry it off. she would take my hand and hold it. its real sweet of her and make me feel good. unfortunately, she is confused on where we stand...

 

[r1234]

ok, grissom....what?? how have you had a boyfriend for that long and he hasn't noticed? what kind of HH do you have?

i have never told anyone EVER and i freak out a little bit when i think of having to tell people, but i don't see how you can avoid it when you're dating someone.

please please explain.

 

[sadday]

ok, grissom....what?? how have you had a boyfriend for that long and he hasn't noticed? what kind of HH do you have?

Yeah, that's what I'd like to know, lol.

The only person that knows about my HH is my mom and it was so HARD to even tell her about it.

 

[desperate]

I've been married for 4 months and living with him for 9 months and believe it or not, 'm sure he doesnt even think I can have something like this. When we started living together I didn't suffer it as often as I am suffering it now. Almost nothing at all. My HH is kind of a smart ass with me. Now it came back to make my life miserable and I have no idea how on earth I could tell him. He's a very confident guy with 0 insecurity. I start sweating on the street, on the train and he just thinks I got really hot or something. But it does bother me when he keeps talking to me and trying to find out what's going on while I'm on the middle of trying to get over it, it just makes it worse. I cant even hear what he's saying anymore!!!!

 

[desperate]

I've been married for 4 months and living with him for 9 months and believe it or not, 'm sure he doesnt even think I can have something like this. When we started living together I didn't suffer it as often as I am suffering it now. Almost nothing at all. My HH is kind of a smart ass with me. Now it came back to make my life miserable and I have no idea how on earth I could tell him. He's a very confident guy with 0 insecurity. I start sweating on the street, on the train and he just thinks I got really hot or something. But it does bother me when he keeps talking to me and trying to find out what's going on while I'm on the middle of trying to get over it, it just makes it worse. I cant even hear what he's saying anymore!!!!

 

[HHzapp]

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[AquariusOutkast]

I think my ex had palmer HH. his hands were always sweaty, but I never thought it was gross or anything. Although I did complain this one time when he had his hand on my lap and it left a dampt spot on my jeans. Anyhoo, don't be ashamed its only clean sweat.

 

[grissom]

sorry for the late reply

Sorry for the late reply. I hate forums just cos you never get notified when someones replied. Anyway, in answer to the questions... I don't know how my bf hasn't noticed. I'm assuming he has no clue ever since he made the remark about how gross it was when he saw his friend having hude sweatpatches on his underarms. If my bf knew I had the condition I'm sure he wouldnt make fun of it.

And the first comment saying hes ignorant or insensitive etc, he's not, he just doesnt know what its like to have hh so its not his fault he thinks its gross. Its like that with every other condition. cos people dont know what its like and cant really empathise then its hard to be comfortable with it if they dont have their own first hand experience.

I have severe HH. Im getting fed up of people who just have palmar HH cos it could be a whole lot worse. I have it on my underarms, ass, legs, behind knees, back, neck, head, hands and feet. When I was working in a cinema rushing to clean screens, the sweat was pouring off me. Although I usually just get feet , hand and underarm sweating as normal, the others happen when I'm very hot.

Ive been hiding it from everyone, esp my bf. He might not notice I have it cos when Im with him Im relaxed and calm and Im usually indoors. Sometimes I wont let him touch my underarms or ass or whatever and he will ask why and Ill just mumble 'I dunno' but hes just gotten used to that. I wear baggy t shirts and tell him I wear them cos I hate my body and he just thinks I have Body dysmorphic disorder but the t shirts are just my way of hiding my hh.

I've been tempted to tell my bf (i need to be honest with him and it is a big factor in my life which i should discuss - it might do my sum good as he is the closest person to me...)
but im too afraid of the response. i've even been too afraid when drunk.

I really love him but im so afraid he will dump me. He says he wants me forever but that could easily change.

Argh!! I dont know what to do!

 

[fnord]

Re: sorry for the late reply

Hang in there, grissom! It's a shitty condition, and I absolutely understand your not being able to talk about it. I just wanted to let you know that others feel for you and wish you all the best.

Sorry for the late reply. I hate forums just cos you never get notified when someones replied. Anyway, in answer to the questions... I don't know how my bf hasn't noticed. I'm assuming he has no clue ever since he made the remark about how gross it was when he saw his friend having hude sweatpatches on his underarms. If my bf knew I had the condition I'm sure he wouldnt make fun of it.

And the first comment saying hes ignorant or insensitive etc, he's not, he just doesnt know what its like to have hh so its not his fault he thinks its gross. Its like that with every other condition. cos people dont know what its like and cant really empathise then its hard to be comfortable with it if they dont have their own first hand experience.

I have severe HH. Im getting fed up of people who just have palmar HH cos it could be a whole lot worse. I have it on my underarms, ass, legs, behind knees, back, neck, head, hands and feet. When I was working in a cinema rushing to clean screens, the sweat was pouring off me. Although I usually just get feet , hand and underarm sweating as normal, the others happen when I'm very hot.

Ive been hiding it from everyone, esp my bf. He might not notice I have it cos when Im with him Im relaxed and calm and Im usually indoors. Sometimes I wont let him touch my underarms or ass or whatever and he will ask why and Ill just mumble 'I dunno' but hes just gotten used to that. I wear baggy t shirts and tell him I wear them cos I hate my body and he just thinks I have Body dysmorphic disorder but the t shirts are just my way of hiding my hh.

I've been tempted to tell my bf (i need to be honest with him and it is a big factor in my life which i should discuss - it might do my sum good as he is the closest person to me...)
but im too afraid of the response. i've even been too afraid when drunk.

I really love him but im so afraid he will dump me. He says he wants me forever but that could easily change.

Argh!! I dont know what to do!

 

[cadmonkey]

Hi grissom,

I certainly know how you feel, i had ETS for palmer HH 12 years ago, but have now got CS bad.....now i sweat everywhere, but worse on back, chest, ass, legs, feet....my hands and head are the only dry bits now.

On the subject of telling people...i have known my wife for 10 years (married for 3 years), but i only told her just before we got married. I thought about the nightmare i had been living for 7 years trying to hide it from her (like finding yet another excuse why i could not wear those grey trousers she bought me out to dinner!). I just thought if i am gonna spend the rest of my life with you i cannot go on hiding it as its stressing me out!

At first she did not understand as she had never seen me sweat!! (great magicians arent we!) then i showed her. I have been suprised about how supportive she has been and i am really glad i told her as i can be myself around her. I could stop making excuses and life got easier as she understood why i avoided certain situations.
She now plans our social life around what she knows i am comfortable doing. This has helped me stay relatively "normal" mentally as she encourages me to keep going out and doing things and pushing my boundrys and stops me sitting around feeling sorry for myself.

Since then, i have told almost all of my friends and family and was suprised by how understanding they have been. In fact i have been suprised by how many of them have asked my advise on certain related issues!

Telling people was just what i found right for me.....it has changed my life for the better. It has made socialising with my friends easier as they understand and ignore my sweat issues. Those of my friends it freaks out...well if they dont accept me for who i am then they are not really a friend.

Whatever you choose to do, good luck!

 

[grissom]

hey

you're completely right... i should tell people and open up. it'll probs do me good as i've been keeping it hidden for 7 years now and all its done it made me mope and feel sorry for myself and i dont wanna be like that. its just gettin the guts to do it. im sure my boyfriend will be fine with it but i think if he thinks its nothin big then i'll be annoyed cos its serious in my life. but then i dont want him thinkin its gross and leaving me. im sure i will tell him. i will definitely post on here 'when' (not if) i will.
and yep, we r all pretty good magicians. i bet the people i tell wont have even noticed it.

 

[bill-uk]

Grissom, I know how you feel because HH is the biggest influence on my life with facial, head and neck being the worst which has been at times been debilitating. However, I have been married for 23 years. I was always hot when I met my wife and I only understood my condition when I found this website. She knows exactly what I have and the medications i take for it and my sons know that this is more than just sweating.

But I really think that it doesn't bother them in the slightest and that really helps. I reckon your bf knows more than you realise and he is still with you. Being with someone with a crap personality or is insensitive is far worse than being with someone who sweats and you obviously only have the latter. Good luck.

Bill

 

[Negaigoto]

The only people who knew about my HH growing up were my parents, sisters, doctor and piano teacher (no hiding it from her!). I always made excuses to avoid touching anyone else, especially when we had the "meet and greet" sessions at church. HH has caused me to have such low self-esteem that I only dated one person in high school, and I just refused to hold hands with him. I had come to expect "that look" people get when they shake your hand, and the insensitive comments that followed...

In 1999 I had ETS surgery at 20 years of age. This solved the problem with my hands which was my major source of grief (my feet still make puddles though), but I have developed compensatory sweating on my legs, stomach, back and face. These are much easier to hide, however, so the only other person who knows about my HH is my husband. Amazingly enough, he is the one person I dated in high school and we reconnected a few years after my ETS.

I continually deal with esteem issues caused by HH.