Not really bullying, but...

[Gui]

...it's pretty close to it. Even though it's probably nowhere as close as most of the stories on this website.

Well, at school, I'm an average guy - I hang out with neither the "cool" or the "uncool" people, just with the "average" people.

Everyone seems to respect me and I respect pretty much everyone. Except, there's this one guy that hates me ever since he arrived at our school, in grade 8, which was 3 years ago. I don't even know why. He just always hated me. What he does:

- If I talk with my friend, who is also his friend (for some reason), he'll try to talk on top of me just to piss me off.
- If we come on opposite ends of a hallway, sometimes he tries to bump into me.
- If I sit at the lunch table where he sometimes sits because we have a mutual friend, he tries to harass me psychologically by saying like "NO, GO AWAY, THERE'S NO ROOM FOR YOU HERE."

Normally, I wouldn't mind. Except I just can't get it out of my head right now. I'm completely puzzled. I don't know what I did wrong, why he hates me. I'm just sick of it, of having to face it every once in a while. He has the biggest ego ever, but I'm not comfortable in my mind knowing somebody hates me for no reason, especially when he's a friend of some of my friends. I'm just scared he'll try to convert them to turn their backs on me and then that they'll hate me too.

I've tried adding him on Facebook, since pretty much everyone from school add each other, people add me, I add people. He just rejected me, even though he sends friend requests to almost everyone. And just this morning, I've seen him talk with the girl I like. This infuriated me even more, but no, I'm 100% sure it's not a thing that he's trying to keep her away from me.

What should I do? I'm just tired of it, it's been on my mind for two consecutive days. Missed sleep because of it. I don't really want to talk to a teacher about it, but I don't want to attack him either. I'm not at school to make enemies; I'm here to have a good time, and to learn.

Any help would be appreciated.. thanks for your time.

 

[LucidPanda]

What's his normal behaviour around other people?

Personally I'd walk up to him and ask what exactly what he's trying to do since all his moves are coming across as a rather insecure but over the top egotistical person.

Have you tried asking other mutual friends?
Perhaps he's secertly gay.

 

[Gui]

What's his normal behaviour around other people?

Personally I'd walk up to him and ask what exactly what he's trying to do since all his moves are coming across as a rather insecure but over the top egotistical person.

Have you tried asking other mutual friends?
Perhaps he's secertly gay.

Mmm, his behaviour is pretty normal. He looks kind of nice, but arrogant.

Yeah, I guess I should try doing that... >_<

And no, I don't think he's gay. He's pretty homophobic to the best of my knowledge, which makes him pretty hypocritical because he has one of the highest voices in our grade.

 

[LucidPanda]

What's his normal behaviour around other people?

Personally I'd walk up to him and ask what exactly what he's trying to do since all his moves are coming across as a rather insecure but over the top egotistical person.

Have you tried asking other mutual friends?
Perhaps he's secertly gay.

Mmm, his behaviour is pretty normal. He looks kind of nice, but arrogant.

Yeah, I guess I should try doing that... >_<

And no, I don't think he's gay. He's pretty homophobic to the best of my knowledge, which makes him pretty hypocritical because he has one of the highest voices in our grade.

Sounds like the best solution. He's just being extremely weird it seems. Don't your friends say anything when he does his "Go away?"

 

[nephatitus]

sounds like he is pretty threatened by your presence and at the same time wants to use it as a means to one up himself infront of your own friends using you as his stepping stool due to the fact that you are new and wants to immediatly place dominance over you.

as it was said above talk to him alone since it may or may not catch him off guard and asess what type of person he really is and perhaps what type of personality he has, im pretty sure that he is insecure due the obvious evidence that you have picked out. This may prove an issue and infact lead to bullying if you do give in to his simple tactics. Best choice of conduct is to get to know your enemy. since these are only just a few points that if feel would like to keep in mind since the rest is up to you

 

[Gui]

Sounds like the best solution. He's just being extremely weird it seems. Don't your friends say anything when he does his "Go away?"

Well, it depends. A case like this has only happened two times, one time I don't think they really heard and the other time they kind of took my defense, saying like "Dude, calm down, he's cool." and once he left the table, we pretty much talked behind his back saying how much of an idiot he is, and they agreed to a certain point.


Also, thanks a lot nephatitus. I'll try doing that soon.

 

[Terry_Palmer]

He just seems loud, and just doesn't like you. Doesn't sound like Bullying, it sounds like you annoy him. Maybe you have the problem? Why not just ignore him.

 

[Gui]

He just seems loud, and just doesn't like you. Doesn't sound like Bullying, it sounds like you annoy him. Maybe you have the problem? Why not just ignore him.

Yeah, that's why I put in my title "Not really bullying, but...". It's just attacking me psychologically, and it's just frustrating.

I don't think I've been annoying him at all, I'm a nice person with everyone, I respect everyone and everyone respects me... except him of course.