has anyone felt their sa has prevented them from having a relationship? when i was around 20, i had a co-worker practically do everything...even set up a date...but i was like totally oblivious to her advances. she knew i liked her and i felt she liked me. i guess i was scared she would find out how boring i was and just the thought of her liking me was good enough for me :roll:. then it happened again today. a female neighbor of mine who i'm almost positive is interested in me...came to a park that is in between our houses...at the normal time i usually go and she brought her dog and my dog played with her's and her (this has happened in the past but for only short periods of time). and she would always look at me as well as i did her but we never talk...havent talked for 2 yrs now cuz we got into a fight. but since then she's been really nice and like showing me that she's okay with me. today was probably best chance i had...i even had a line set up to break the ice and she was being totally obvious that she was willing to talk to me. but wouldnt you know it...some other guy (neighbor) came out with his dogs and i'm could tell he wanted to hit on her. i even saw him look out his window to see if she was there and he hardly ever goes to the park. so they talked and i just sat there watching them grrrr. lol. i hope no one else here is as pathetic as i am.
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Elwood44
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This is for all the lonely people
Thinking that life has passed them by
Dont give up until you drink from the silver cup
And never take you down or never give you up
You never know until you try
taken from the song "Lonely People" by America
I can say my social anxiety has caused plenty of problems in the relationship area. I've probably sabotaged potential friendships and romantic relationships with my awkwardness. As for advice, do whatever you can to talk to your neighbor. (I know, it's easy to say but much harder to do). If she is interested in you then she will be happy you spoke to her.
Thinking that life has passed them by
Dont give up until you drink from the silver cup
And never take you down or never give you up
You never know until you try
taken from the song "Lonely People" by America
I can say my social anxiety has caused plenty of problems in the relationship area. I've probably sabotaged potential friendships and romantic relationships with my awkwardness. As for advice, do whatever you can to talk to your neighbor. (I know, it's easy to say but much harder to do). If she is interested in you then she will be happy you spoke to her.
siriusblack
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i dunno WHAT prevents relationships for me... but ANY girl i'm in love with isn't in love with me and if i finally dare make hints that i am, EVERYONE thinks i'm a FUCKING IDIOT!!! and she thinks i'm a stalker and gets freaked out by me, because i did socially "wrong" things apparently...
omg i finally spoke to her! but it was only like 15 mins. but i think it went well although i think i bored her since she left...i'm sure she could have stayed longer. i feel good that i got up the nerve to go up to her...altho i zig zagged my way to her. i got my dog to run over to her so she was playing with him while i sauntered over to her lol. and i got a better look at her since she was so close and she is even hotter than i thought and now i'm even more crazier for her lol. i just hope it leads to more talking. but i hardly even see her now that it gets dark earlier. i was too chicken to ask her if she would like to talk another time or give her my phone number...i dont know if she was that interested :?. i just think she might want to be friends...but probably nothing more =/. but i'll take it.
so you guys never know what will happen so keep trying...i'm sure something will happen for you
...altho nothing spectacular really happened for me...but i feel better at least something happened. now that you mentioned it (siriusblack) i wonder if she thought i was a stalker :? lol. but i dont think so cuz it was dark in the park and we were alone...so hopefully not. and elwood...thanks for what you said. i'm not sure if she was happy...if she was...she'll come out more.
well good luck to you guys...hope you'll find someone. i know i feel more optimistic than yesterday...
probably my last post since everyone hates me here and i said i was leaving. i'm just so excited about today i dont care lol and i dont have any friends currently i can tell so...
so you guys never know what will happen so keep trying...i'm sure something will happen for you
...altho nothing spectacular really happened for me...but i feel better at least something happened. now that you mentioned it (siriusblack) i wonder if she thought i was a stalker :? lol. but i dont think so cuz it was dark in the park and we were alone...so hopefully not. and elwood...thanks for what you said. i'm not sure if she was happy...if she was...she'll come out more.well good luck to you guys...hope you'll find someone. i know i feel more optimistic than yesterday...
probably my last post since everyone hates me here and i said i was leaving. i'm just so excited about today i dont care lol and i dont have any friends currently i can tell
so...
movingzachb
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jordo said:
I am 33 and I have never had a relationship. Never danced. Never been out on a Friday night. I have also been oblivious to advances I am sure - now that I look back knowing that I have SA. Phobia's what have you.
I have a very sad story about a girl I tried to talk to from high school but couldn't - 16 years later. I am not as shy now as I was then - so I tried to get to know her after seeing her pop up on one of those social networking sites. She told me we couldn't be friends because I was shy. I am beyond sad! Yes I don't think I'll ever have a relationship - and I am a pretty damn good looking guy to.
ls1raider
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Good job man! I know it's not much but little victories like that are what keep me going and optimistic for the future. I am 23 years old and never been in an adult relationship just one in high school for a few weeks.
I have messed up a few other chances and advances because of my awkwardness and inability to make a move or ask out on a date. But the one thing that i did get out of those mishaps is the fact that i was liked, and for those moments that i look back on, I realize that if i was able to be liked as at one point in my life, I may have more possibilities in the future, and as I grow I hope to capatilize on those possibilities. I remember something i read once that said that in order for drastic change and growth you have to take risks, and even how little the risk is, every risk counts. Good Luck Man!
I have messed up a few other chances and advances because of my awkwardness and inability to make a move or ask out on a date. But the one thing that i did get out of those mishaps is the fact that i was liked, and for those moments that i look back on, I realize that if i was able to be liked as at one point in my life, I may have more possibilities in the future, and as I grow I hope to capatilize on those possibilities. I remember something i read once that said that in order for drastic change and growth you have to take risks, and even how little the risk is, every risk counts. Good Luck Man!