carlislanders06
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So, a little about myself: I'm a 24 year old female. When I was in elementary school, I was soo shy that I would not talk to anyone, even when asked questions. My parents recently told me that I developed a bladder infection because I was too scared to tell the teachers I had to go to the bathroom. It has gotten better as I have matured, but I am still having some problems. I have been working as an Adult Probation Officer for about 2 1/2 years now, so this has helped my shyness, but I have noticed I am extremely quiet in court and around lawyers/judges or people who I feel are superior over me. (this has alot also to do with one of the judges totally embarassing me my first day in court) Anyway, the main reason I am writing today is because this anxiety/shyness or whatever I have is hurting my relationship. I have been dating this lawyer for almost 1 year now. In the beginning I was very quiet and was always scared I was going to do/say the wrong thing. He tells me now that he even almost broke up with me because he felt I wouldn't open up to him or be myself around him. Now, our relationship has really grown and we are getting really serious. I am so in love with him, and know he is the one for me. He took me to look at engagement rings in November. Now, here is the problem. I went with him and his parents on a 5-day trip during Christmas to Arizona. I was already nervous about the trip to begin with, so imagine how I felt when I found out I was going to be sharing the same room with his mother who I've met twice and sharing a king size bed with her? Also, my boyfriend has been married before, so I am there feeling like I have to meet these crazy expectations and prove to them I will not treat him the way his ex treated him. Anyway, long story short, I was really quiet the whole trip, and his parents told my b/f they don't have our blessings to get married because they know nothing about me and I am way too quiet. They want to know more about me before they "approve." Help?? Any suggestions? My boyfriend wants me to call them and try and talk to them, but I am thinking more of writing them a letter... ?
