New to the forum and struggling...

[ydw]

Hi. I'm a college student about to graduate with a degree in General Studies and a minor in English. Several months ago, I went to a business consultant who insisted that I was an English major, even after I told him I was in General Studies. So when some of my schoolmates asked what my major was, I told them I was studying English, and they assumed I was an English major. That is my expertise. Now, I'm about to graduate, and when the announcer says, "Bachelor of General Studies," I'm afraid my schoolmates will go out of their way to make my life a living hell, saying, "Liar. You're the worst person I've ever met. How dare you! I'll never forget what you did to me... etc." Will they get over the whole degree name issue? Will they throw it in my face every time they see me? Will they make it their aim in life to discredit me? What if they stumble upon this message board, read this, and treat me with suspicion for the rest of the semester? I know rationally that they won't do that; they have lives of their own. But these thoughts still haunt me every day. What to do??

~Yolanda~

 

[ppaul]

hey ydw,

I know how you feel sounds like your imaging the worst and its self sabotage.

Maybe you could look into CBT, it a good way of combatting self sabotage.

 

[Guest]

They'll get over it if there your real friends!,,, and then next week joe will do somthing bad to janet and they will for get all about it lol....
l just wish l could spell enough to be able to write a good messege to you..

 

[Yossarian]

Yeah like fluffy said real friends will understand. Friendship is about more than just hanging out together. I can understand that with SP we always blow things up to be worse than they are.

I don't want to belittle your fears but I don't think it will be as bad as you are anticipating. There are much worse things in life than getting confused about what you are studying.

I can't talk for them BUT if I were them and you explained it I would just laugh it off as one of those things. It's not like you deliberately tried to deceive or hurt them.

As for what to do, personally I would just explain to them, say sorry, tell them the buisness guy confused you and you feel bad about it. It's better for them to hear the truth from you then from someone else. It'll be cool and a great relief.

 

[cody2468]

I don't think it will be as bad as what you think it will be. It was just a little misunderstanding and if you explain it like that they wont have a problem with it. With SP you always seem to think of the bad negatives things and quite often what happens if completely different to what you expected in the first place. I know I always blow things out of proportion but things never work out that way. They shouldn't go around talking about you as there are more inportant things in life to worry about.

 

[Guest]

talk about blowthings out of proportion, My sons friends mum come to my house last sunday, telling me my son is a lier with a big list of all this crap that he had ment to have lied about, l begged her not to get into the kids fights they'll be friends next week.. No she was here to do somthing about my son today and she was the lady that was going to do it...it had all started from 1 other boy who had come around that morning, he had giving my son a lighter that they where playing with(yes bad boys)But my son also has heaps of lighters in his room that he uses on his motorbike to fix the spark plugs, and l no hes not silly with then.. My son had told me what they had been doing with the lighters and l said to this older kid, not to play with them there not toys.. l wasnt going to tell his mum, but the he thought l was going to ring her, and told this mass lie that my son had stolening it from there house,, so next time he went to there house she went mad, he come home crying..so l said keep away from her she'll relax the next few days and everything will be back to nor... well the other 2 boys that where in on the fire lighting shit them selfs made up a heap of crap to get out of trouble with there parents and made out my son was doing all this alone.. and this is when one of the mums decided to come around and tell me,, l think she was drunk she in my face yelling at me ,, calling me and F#@! wnaker,then she pushed me l pushed her back and then it was on for young and old.. now shes taking me to court lol.. what a joke! not much good for the anxeity either, dont get me wrong l no my son can lie and does but all kids lie, as l tryed to explain to this lady..she has bit me you c@#! tattoo on her back,, there was no reasons with this lady....Now thats blow out of proportion!

 

[Island_chic]

Hi. I'm a college student about to graduate with a degree in General Studies and a minor in English. Several months ago, I went to a business consultant who insisted that I was an English major, even after I told him I was in General Studies. So when some of my schoolmates asked what my major was, I told them I was studying English, and they assumed I was an English major. That is my expertise. Now, I'm about to graduate, and when the announcer says, "Bachelor of General Studies," I'm afraid my schoolmates will go out of their way to make my life a living hell, saying, "Liar. You're the worst person I've ever met. How dare you! I'll never forget what you did to me... etc." Will they get over the whole degree name issue? Will they throw it in my face every time they see me? Will they make it their aim in life to discredit me? What if they stumble upon this message board, read this, and treat me with suspicion for the rest of the semester? I know rationally that they won't do that; they have lives of their own. But these thoughts still haunt me every day. What to do??

~Yolanda~

Woah! no. Your freakin' out a bit. Your still studying English. It might be a small mishap between words but...so what? We all makes mistakes virtually everyday. You are being way to hard on yourself (hugs) It's okay. Your classmates probably won't even think twice about something like that.(not to be rude) You don't have to say and do everything perfectly. When I was in college I freaked out about every little thing and it took away from my learning. Sorry your having a hard time.