New tactics...

[slicenrice]

I have been thinking about a new way to go about socializing, tell me what you think. I have been thinking that if I am able to imagine that everyone else has social phobia also, then I will be less intimidated by them. I haven't really given this a shot yet, but I may try. It will help me get less discouraged when people treat me like crap at least!

 

[Sacrament]

That would only help if they acted like they had an anxiety disorder. Also, 'we' tend to feel embarassed for others when they are embarassed, so it's a damn spiral, really.

 

[Kien]

I think it will only hurt when you see that they dare do social things all the time that you would not.

 

[slicenrice]

good calls. i guess its back to the drawing board

 

[Ergo_proxy]

I think likes you. When I project somethink realise theese. Perhaps is for others have'nt got imagination. :wink:

...the power of mind is incredibull...

 

[Zarrix]

That would only help if they acted like they had an anxiety disorder. Also, 'we' tend to feel embarassed for others when they are embarassed, so it's a damn spiral, really.

I feel that too. I can't watch if a presenter on TV completely craps up. I feel very embarrassed and sad for them =(

 

[miss_amy]

Thats called empathy and I actually feel its a good quality to have. I think that's what makes us nice caring people.

I think acting is a good way to help. Somedays I pretend to be really confident, usually on the days I feel I look OK. Its hard to keep up with it for too long, I find anyway.

 

[Sacrament]

good calls. i guess its back to the drawing board

Don't back down, though. The best way to beat the beast is by not fearing it and facing it head on. Believe it or not, but the best way to beat, let's say, blushing (and I'm not talking about heat-induced flushing and so forth) is to accept it and simply not care. Same goes for our perceptions of what others think and so forth.

Once we accept ourselves as people and human beings, others will slowly accept us as well.

 

[Incognito]

I agree with Sacrament. When I was in the U.S. Navy, I was taught how to swim by a bunch of hard-ass Navy SEAL's. At the end of the swimming class you have to step off a 10 foot high platform into VERY deep swimming pool. The moments up to that were terrifying, and I knew I couldn't get out of it...it had to be done. When they give you the command "Edge" you step on to the edge with your toes hanging over. Your hands are crossed over your chest with your right hand over your nose. At the command "Step" you close your eyes and step off the edge. When I took that step the plundge was sickening, it felt like I was taking forever to fall.
But you know what? After that the fear vanished. You see, hesitating makes the fear stronger. The best way to deal with fear is with action. Keep fighting, if nothing else fighting it is something to be proud of.

 

[Simpleme]

I think nobody's perfect.

I think most of the time we try to paint our own picture of other people, it's a defense mechanism.

Even though it's hard, i try to think if people are raised right in the first place then socializing is fun. Raised right i mean a person brought up in a functional home rather drugs or abuse etc...

Otherwise, if they aren't raised they are selling themselves equally short to socialize.