Hey, i am new to this site, and am just posting an intro type thing. i just posted on the blushing one too
Just quickly, I am 24, and have low confidence and am so shy it cripples me in some situations. I get invited places but i back out at the last minute because I would rather stay home where nobody is going to make me blush or I'm going to make a fool of myself. When I am drunk, I am incredibly social, talk to anyone, make small talk with strangers (usually men if I'm honest! I'm a terrible flirt when i have a drink) am fun, lively and chatty. When i'm sober, I'm more or less the exact opposite. I don't have a problem talking to men, I have a boyfriend of 2.5 years, and I don't havea problem talking to them on a friendly scale either. I think I'm more wary of talking to women because women judge each other so harshly. I don't drink very often now, and have never used it outside of a social situation anyway, just felt like i may be making it sound like i rely on drink so wanted to clear that one up lol.
I am sick of missing out on things. Sick of feeling like a failure cos I didn't go out when someone asked. Sick of blushing all the time at nothing at all most of the time. I'm fed up with the voice inside who tells me I'm not as important as other people. I know in my head that nobody is better than me, and like when I say something that people disagree with instead of thinking oh I bet they all hate me now, I try and be rational and tell myself that when someone else says something I dont agree with I dont hate them, or even think anything other than I don't agree before moving on, so nobody else is going to think any differently of me....the same as when I say somethign silly, trip over in front of people, can't park my car when people are watching and all the other things I get embarassed about and feel useless about. I'm working on it........but I have only been working on it for about a week, and I have 24 years worth to get over. Hmm I guess I'm just rambling on now, just wanted to tr and explain how I feel and my shyness, hopefully someone else knows how I feel!
Thanks for reading
Just quickly, I am 24, and have low confidence and am so shy it cripples me in some situations. I get invited places but i back out at the last minute because I would rather stay home where nobody is going to make me blush or I'm going to make a fool of myself. When I am drunk, I am incredibly social, talk to anyone, make small talk with strangers (usually men if I'm honest! I'm a terrible flirt when i have a drink) am fun, lively and chatty. When i'm sober, I'm more or less the exact opposite. I don't have a problem talking to men, I have a boyfriend of 2.5 years, and I don't havea problem talking to them on a friendly scale either. I think I'm more wary of talking to women because women judge each other so harshly. I don't drink very often now, and have never used it outside of a social situation anyway, just felt like i may be making it sound like i rely on drink so wanted to clear that one up lol.
I am sick of missing out on things. Sick of feeling like a failure cos I didn't go out when someone asked. Sick of blushing all the time at nothing at all most of the time. I'm fed up with the voice inside who tells me I'm not as important as other people. I know in my head that nobody is better than me, and like when I say something that people disagree with instead of thinking oh I bet they all hate me now, I try and be rational and tell myself that when someone else says something I dont agree with I dont hate them, or even think anything other than I don't agree before moving on, so nobody else is going to think any differently of me....the same as when I say somethign silly, trip over in front of people, can't park my car when people are watching and all the other things I get embarassed about and feel useless about. I'm working on it........but I have only been working on it for about a week, and I have 24 years worth to get over. Hmm I guess I'm just rambling on now, just wanted to tr and explain how I feel and my shyness, hopefully someone else knows how I feel!
Thanks for reading