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scaredgirly86

scaredgirly86

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Heya,
im new to the site. i have had SP for 2 years but onli found out in the past 2 months that this was the problem. all doctors just thought it was panic disorder! i mean ive spoke to people with panic disorder but not social phobia disorder! i just wondered really what other people felt n what symptoms they got n stuff i kinda just wanna feel like im not the onli one n im not alone which is how i feel at the moment! also any success stories on how people got better than can help me to get rid of this phobia would be really gud! i am going to CBT at the moment but im finding it really hard to do what shes asking to get better.
thanks all it wud b nice to hear from u
candi xxxx :wink:
 
scaredgirly86

scaredgirly86

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Thank u hun!

Yeh i get panic attacks which is annoyin! my main problem is avoiding just not doing things i should be and every1 around me doesnt understand how it can b hard! also it hasnt helped because my dad died a few months ago which has set me bak a far way but im determined to get better soon.

what have u people done to get over this? anything helped at all? is there neone who comes on here who has been cured of this horrible phobia?

luv candi xx
 
scaredgirly86

scaredgirly86

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aww im sorry to hear about ur dad too! its a terrible thing to happen! :(

i just wanna find my way but im finding it hard, i just wanna kinda get a hold of it before it totally ruins my life! yeh i wish i could go back and change things too but i suppose we cant do that so we just gotta press on and get over this!!!

the avoiding thing i just dont seem to be able to control, every therapist ,councellor etc ive seen said my main problem is my avoidance! i cant see how u dont avoid things? i kinda see it as this.. if ur not scared u dont avoid, and if ur not scared then the anxiety is controllable! i know ive have probably got this wrong i just wanna know how i can stop avoiding!

do u live like a general normal life? do u work and stuff? i kinda spend my days doing nothing, i can do things now and agen like go into town but thats not often n my mum has to b around i want to b able to work again and see my friends when and where i want

xxxxx
 
scaredgirly86

scaredgirly86

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heya matt, candi here hehe! umm i had CBT about a year ago with one lady n she did what ur doing making me write things down all the time n stuff but after like 5 months i just thought id had enough of that seen as i was payin her £50 an hour n getting no where yeh i know they have to start by gettin in ur head but then they shud start doing work with u and stuff so id keep an eye on that if i were u! but now im doing CBT on the NHS n it really is helping me shes the first person to tell me what i had was social pobia not panic disorder! the reason i have panic attacks is because im embarrased at what people will think of me n stuff! now shes just generally told me i need to face my fear to solve it if u know what i mean, put myself in situations where i get embarrased and panic but stick with it and apparently i shud eventually realise its not as bad as i thought it wud b and therefore i can deal with it! ive onli seen her about 4 times, i have done more things than i usually do and had a panic attack on a bus and stuck with it and realised i was fine n no one even looked at me! its really hard work i wud never say it wasnt n i still wont do too daring things but we'll see how it goes! have u got it on NHS or is it private?
luv candi xxx
 
scaredgirly86

scaredgirly86

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looks like its just us 3 talkin hehe! yeh gud on ya matt n yeh its prob best to tell her what u want out of CBT otherwise shes not gonna know what to do with ya :p how long have u had SP? and how old r ya? ive onli had it 2 years but wish i had tackled it earlier coz hopefully id b ok by now! god im bored lol i think im just writing this for the sake of it not really sayin nethin productive lmao! hope ur both ok
candi xx
 
Septor

Septor

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Welcome scaredgirly86.You have came to the right place I hope you stay here is good and you get som kind of help out of this site :D :D :D
 
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