ppaul
Well-known member
After seeing a psychologist a few times, I have only just recently been able to put a name to the way I've been feeling (SA). REading everyone elses posts and hearing descriptions of other SA people from my psychologist really rings true for me.
I've always compared myself to other people and seen myself through the eyes of others rather than my own. Always analysed conversation and social events after the event (really wish i didnt, drives me crazy).
but the thing is im sure i never used to be shy. my psychologist says thats impossible and that ive always had trouble socialising. but nobody i know would describe me as shy. I've only started having big problems socially in the last year or so...but nobody who knows me would describe me as being shy. i think that people who have known me a long time just think ive gone a bit weird recently.
when i think back to when i was younger i was very friendly and outgoing without being over the top.
this is also the longest stint ive ever had at being single. while i try not pick on myself for that (which is hard to do) i think its much harder for a guy to start a relationship if he's shy than it is for a shy girl. Women seem to think your not manly enough if your she, as we all know confidence is important to women in looking for a man.
ANyways i spose all that doesnt matter that much cause i want to get my head sorted before i get into anything.
ive diverged a bit.....but does anyone else out there have similar experiences where theyve only felt as if they have been shy recently??? i've always been very selfconscious though, i supose i just used to be braver.
Paul
I've always compared myself to other people and seen myself through the eyes of others rather than my own. Always analysed conversation and social events after the event (really wish i didnt, drives me crazy).
but the thing is im sure i never used to be shy. my psychologist says thats impossible and that ive always had trouble socialising. but nobody i know would describe me as shy. I've only started having big problems socially in the last year or so...but nobody who knows me would describe me as being shy. i think that people who have known me a long time just think ive gone a bit weird recently.
when i think back to when i was younger i was very friendly and outgoing without being over the top.
this is also the longest stint ive ever had at being single. while i try not pick on myself for that (which is hard to do) i think its much harder for a guy to start a relationship if he's shy than it is for a shy girl. Women seem to think your not manly enough if your she, as we all know confidence is important to women in looking for a man.
ANyways i spose all that doesnt matter that much cause i want to get my head sorted before i get into anything.
ive diverged a bit.....but does anyone else out there have similar experiences where theyve only felt as if they have been shy recently??? i've always been very selfconscious though, i supose i just used to be braver.
Paul