My family thinks I'm just lazy

[rainy512]

I'm 28 years old and just separated from my husband. We have 2 kids together. I've been on disability for 2 years because of my SP. I need to find a job because I only get $500 mo. I've tried to apply at a few places but I turn bright red and sweat REALLY bad and then the whole room turns black and I have have to run out the door. I cry about this every night. I feel like I'm useless. I've discussed this with some of my family members and they say I'm just being lazy. They tell me you just have to make yourself do it. They think I'm using this anxiety excuse to live off the government. Believe me, I want to get a job. The only one who is there for me is my mom because she has it too. But they believe hers is real and I'm copying her because we don't have the same symptoms. She is shy but her main problem is her fear of driving. I feel so alone now. Has anyone else been accused of being lazy?

 

[B]

My family has always been supportive of me, but there've been times where I just got that vibe off them like they think I'm just lazy. I've got a job and everything, they just don't seem to see any ambition in me. Is therapy an option for you?

 

[Funkymunky]

My close family (mum dad sisters) are ok.Old friends from the past and all other relatives just think im lazy! :roll:

Sometimes its easier to play the lazy card though than try to explain the unexplainable.Truth is though providing Im not depressed i find i have way to much energy to burn off.Anyone else get frustrated with that?

I end up doing press-ups etc like mad or running about like a headless chicken with my dog just to burn it off!.Sometimes i can be in the hall on the floor wrestling with my dog making strange noises etc and someone will come to the door with a delivery or something lol.My door has a big window on it and they must see me behaving like a numpty rolling on my back etc...

What a minter!!!

 

[rainy512]

I've gone the therapy route but I just felt like they thought I was psychotic or something. It was very uncomfortable. I was taking Zoloft but weened myself off because I would get extremely angry. For a year after I quit the Zoloft I was getting progressively better (anxiety-wise). I was able to leave the house again...then I could go shopping as long as someone was with me.....and now I can go alone as long as I don't get a lot of stuff. But for several months now I don't seem to be doing any better.

 

[Chrysta]

I think the only member of my family that thought I was lazy was my dad. But that was before he new I had it and I was always in my room and didn't go anywhere or do anything, but I couldn't tell him why.

 

[Indecisive]

I can do physical things, like yard work and cleaning the house, it's things that require a lot of brain power and concentration that get to me. From about the age of 7 or so the school labeled me as LD (Learning Disabled) so I've always felt different and slow. My dad would help me a lot in school, he basicly wrote all my take home papers for me in high school because I would get frustrated and bacily took the easy way out. Looking back I would rather have failed then choose to let him write the papers. The older I get the more dim I feel. My confidence is so low right now that I feel I would mess up any job I were to get, espeically if it involved register work, or remembering a list of items (waiter).
So basicly I do feel lazy, just don't seem to want to do anything lately other then complain and surf the internet.

 

[gg]

Has anyone else been accused of being lazy?

yes i have. i really wanted a job sooo badly coz i was sick of living off the government. people would ask me just about everyday if i had a job yet. they would call me lazy & tell me to get off my fat ass. i would get really depressed and wanted to take my own life over it. that was a few years back. now i have a son to take care of & i wouldnt mind a part time job but i couldnt go thru with the job interview.

 

[Septor]

Has anyone else been accused of being lazy?

yes i have. i really wanted a job sooo badly coz i was sick of living off the government. people would ask me just about everyday if i had a job yet. they would call me lazy & tell me to get off my fat ass. i would get really depressed and wanted to take my own life over it. that was a few years back. now i have a son to take care of & i wouldnt mind a part time job but i couldnt go thru with the job interview.

I know how that is.I'm on disability right now and I always dread when someone asked me what I do for a living because I don't know how they will react.If they will start up on the you are lazy bum speech.

I would love to get a job but I don't think I could handle a interview either and i'm going to start going back to school pretty soon.I will barely be able to handle that.If at all.

 

[rainy512]

Same here, I feel like if I could find a job where I didn't have to deal a whole lot with the public I could probably do ok. It's the interview that kills me. A few years back before I knew what I had I went to an interview and started hyperventillating and made myself focus on one particular object. It wasn't until the end of the interview that I realized I had been staring at the guy's crotch the entire time. Needless to say I didn't get the job.