mouth wont move

[despise]

i remember on photo day at school...the lady was taking everyones single photos and after everyone she would say "lovely, beautiful, perfect" when it came to me she goes "don't look so painful next time" i was so shocked. people going next just laughed...i hate photos so much.

 

[lsgv]

Mysti, I have started humming in the morning before going to work. Yesterday i twas a terrific experience. i was able to converse without any difficulty and found very confident while talking to others..but every day it not
the same. today although i did do humming and but i wasn't very fluent when i called for doctor's appointment for eye problem..

But i think i found some solution to my problem...

Did you guys have the same problem as me where the voice gets very low and there is great difficulty in talking when i get up in the morning. It stays for some time (like few hours) before it gets ok..

That's why i started humming in the morning before going to work..although it been only 2 days..

I also found another trick..when i go out and feel that my voice is very low and not very resonant, i would hum silently and after few seconds i see my voice getting very resonant and make me very confident to speak. I tried this at sam's club yesterday and was talking/joking with the clerk there..so i think it works..I will have to tets this at other places so that i can use it anywhere..

Regarding singing, it will definitely be very helpful as a longterm plan. I will definitely try that..and also reading aloud. This was suggested in an exercise book. Reading any article of your interest. I will try this also..

 

[Mysti]

Mysti, I have started humming in the morning before going to work. Yesterday i twas a terrific experience. i was able to converse without any difficulty and found very confident while talking to others..but every day it not
the same. today although i did do humming and but i wasn't very fluent when i called for doctor's appointment for eye problem..

But i think i found some solution to my problem...

Hi Isgv,

I'm really glad your experience with humming has been fairly positive so far
I think with anything in life there will be ups and downs but any progress is great I hope it continues to improve for you.

Masterpiece2 is right, singing really does help with self esteem and can greatly improves your general mood too. I did feel a little embarrassed when the postman knocked during my attempt at opera - especially since I was making the words up as I went along thank goodness I was at the back of the house is all I can say hehe - oh well gave me a giggle for the rest of the day I guess

 

[CPA23]

I just become so self-conscious when it comes to smiling and laughing. When I laugh at certain things (I love to laugh at weird stuff), many people always ask me what is so funny. On the flip side, when I have a normal look on my face many people ask me why do I look so serious. It's a lose-lose situation. I thought I would have like a neutral or normal look but many people ask me what's wrong. I guess in social situations, I'll just wait until everyone else laughs to laugh because I get self-conscious when I am the only one laughing at something.

 

[Pookah]

Sometimes I smile when I don't want to. It makes me a bad liar.

 

[MaryA]

I had that problem too and I'm trying to think back as to how I dealt with it. I remember my face getting really tense and I would go into the bathroom and massage my face which helped a lot. As far as being embarrassed, I look back on it now and think that I really cared too much what people thought, especially if people teased me (some were mean) or would ask "why are you so quiet?" I hated that question! Now my attitude towards that is... if they are asking that uncomfortable question, apparently me being quiet is making them feel insecure... and that's not my problem, that's their problem. Just like I have to manage my own insecurities, they need to manage theirs and not put that responsibility on me... and now I can smile and say because I am and walk away without carrying it around on my shoulders. Not sure if that helped at all.