Married and feeling alone ... Why?

[rockstarcheers]

Finally found a forum where I can speak openly and I like open talk

I was a simple guy from South Asia with average looks never had any gf in my life (well I tried to have one but failed)

Well my personality is, Im bit wild and more adventurous, who wants to try good and bad at least once, got married to a girl started my family
but still feeling alone ...

I have no social life, don't drink or smoke, My daily routine is Home to Work and back home looking after my family. that's it.

My better half is busy with household work (I do really contribute in household work and maintaining family) and got some friends.. but I don't have any friends nor any social life :-(

I'm bit hungry for physical intimacy and thought about having a girl friend or extended family (starting another relationship) many times even for one night stand, but my family responsibility held me back.

Now in mid 30's. Is there any disorder in me?

How are other men and women dealing with this kind of situation?

I know there are other in this world who would have same situation like me

To be frank, I did not had enough sex in my life and whenever I get aroused or gets horny, most of time i do solo that's it ....

I'm not blaming my better half but I want to have good sexual life before i get old... there are many thing which we can't do when we get old...

 

[rockstarcheers]

To add to this further,, I have tried many times to have a healthy friendly circle but failed as usual.. many times people have always ignored and avoided me until very recently may be I dont belong to this world any more

 

[SilentAndShy]

Finally found a forum where I can speak openly and I like open talk

I was a simple guy from South Asia with average looks never had any gf in my life (well I tried to have one but failed)

Well my personality is, Im bit wild and more adventurous, who wants to try good and bad at least once, got married to a girl started my family
but still feeling alone ...

I have no social life, don't drink or smoke, My daily routine is Home to Work and back home looking after my family. that's it.

My better half is busy with household work (I do really contribute in household work and maintaining family) and got some friends.. but I don't have any friends nor any social life :-(

I'm bit hungry for physical intimacy and thought about having a girl friend or extended family (starting another relationship) many times even for one night stand, but my family responsibility held me back.

Now in mid 30's. Is there any disorder in me?

How are other men and women dealing with this kind of situation?

I know there are other in this world who would have same situation like me

To be frank, I did not had enough sex in my life and whenever I get aroused or gets horny, most of time i do solo that's it ....

I'm not blaming my better half but I want to have good sexual life before i get old... there are many thing which we can't do when we get old...

Hi there, can resonate slightly with your experiences.

Are there any opportunities when your wife might be free or have an afternoon available so you can go out shopping or go for lunch? My wife takes charge of the household chores but still nags me to go out (which I'm hesitant to do for a number of reasons). Try and see when she is free so you can go out, even if it's a walk to the shops. Same with your friends, or work colleagues - going to watch a movie etc.

I assume your sex life is non existant with your wife but maybe try to arouse her and take it from there? Again, sympathise with your temptations of hornyness.

 

[ryan2022]

I completely understand.

I think you definitely aren't alone when it comes to this. You and I are roughly the same age. I honestly think that boredom sets in to an extent, and we need to persevere!

Cheating on your wife (although tempting) isn't the answer. For me, staying with her through thick and thin, and really working at making things stick between us has become a part of my personality and who I am.

I would definitely work on scheduling with her, keeping an open communication and possibly working with a councellor to mediate....there is NO shame in councelling. It sounds like it could help you two.

Ryan