charlieHungerford
Well-known member
It does appear to me that as a whole, SA sufferers think so negatively of themselves, put themself down, concentrate purely on their perceived negatives, flaws, insecurities, etc and just have a really low opinion of themselves.
There does seem something wrong here - we think negatively simply because we have developed negative thinking on that aspect of ourselves because of past experience, past feedback, past negative thoughts. These are exaggerated, biased and unfair because we have excluded any positives in this. But also just because we think negative on our perceived flaws what is to say others notice these flaws and place such importance on our flaws? I mean I see today probably 1000 people from people at work, people in the streets, people on the tv, people in shops, etc, etc - how come I have not noticed anyone's flaws or judged anyone negatively? Surely all of these 1000 people I see all think they are so amazing and are so secure with every part of themselves? Yet I haven't noticed these flaws. What is a flaw to others means nothing to me. What is a flaw to me is surely nothing to most people as well.
Therefore we are thinking negative about ourselves when no one else is. We are therefore creating our own downfall, we don't need to put ourselves down and think so bad of ourselves. Since we have no control over how people think of us or what people think of us, we may as well think positively and believe in ourselves, we will feel so much better, achieve so much more, etc.
So why not from now, every few minutes always think of positives in ourselves. Keep telling ourselves we are a brilliant unique person and think of all of our qualities, past successed, achievements, times when people have really liked us, etc, etc. Whatever we are doing and where ever we are, just think about positives in every aspect of yourself. Think positives about your appearance, how smart you look, the things you like about how you look. What you like in your personality, what you like in your intelligence, just flood yourself with positives.
Because I am in an office full of 30 people. I could say something bad about every person in here if I was horrible and mean, and this applies to everyone - anyone can be mean about me, I have flaws, but anyone can be mean about anyone else.
There is no need to think negatively of ourselves again. Getting into a positive way of thinking as a habbit about ourselves will just work wonders for our self esteem, self worth, self belief, believing we are good enough. Because I am sure a lot of you put yourselves down and think very negatively about yourselves, but I must be honest and say everyone who has written posts here seems such a nice person, interesting, good writers - seem intelligent, etc. There is loads of positives in us and we need to start realising how good we really are and base our self image on this.
There does seem something wrong here - we think negatively simply because we have developed negative thinking on that aspect of ourselves because of past experience, past feedback, past negative thoughts. These are exaggerated, biased and unfair because we have excluded any positives in this. But also just because we think negative on our perceived flaws what is to say others notice these flaws and place such importance on our flaws? I mean I see today probably 1000 people from people at work, people in the streets, people on the tv, people in shops, etc, etc - how come I have not noticed anyone's flaws or judged anyone negatively? Surely all of these 1000 people I see all think they are so amazing and are so secure with every part of themselves? Yet I haven't noticed these flaws. What is a flaw to others means nothing to me. What is a flaw to me is surely nothing to most people as well.
Therefore we are thinking negative about ourselves when no one else is. We are therefore creating our own downfall, we don't need to put ourselves down and think so bad of ourselves. Since we have no control over how people think of us or what people think of us, we may as well think positively and believe in ourselves, we will feel so much better, achieve so much more, etc.
So why not from now, every few minutes always think of positives in ourselves. Keep telling ourselves we are a brilliant unique person and think of all of our qualities, past successed, achievements, times when people have really liked us, etc, etc. Whatever we are doing and where ever we are, just think about positives in every aspect of yourself. Think positives about your appearance, how smart you look, the things you like about how you look. What you like in your personality, what you like in your intelligence, just flood yourself with positives.
Because I am in an office full of 30 people. I could say something bad about every person in here if I was horrible and mean, and this applies to everyone - anyone can be mean about me, I have flaws, but anyone can be mean about anyone else.
There is no need to think negatively of ourselves again. Getting into a positive way of thinking as a habbit about ourselves will just work wonders for our self esteem, self worth, self belief, believing we are good enough. Because I am sure a lot of you put yourselves down and think very negatively about yourselves, but I must be honest and say everyone who has written posts here seems such a nice person, interesting, good writers - seem intelligent, etc. There is loads of positives in us and we need to start realising how good we really are and base our self image on this.
