late 30s and lonely

[steveg333]

I'm pushing 40, chronically depressed since I was 16, never married and very few friends. I live alone and work f/t. I have an ugly face so I hardly ever date and have only ever had 1 girlfriend for 4 months!-this situation is extremely PATHETIC!!! I'm finding it hard to make friends at this age, and the chronic singleness is tearing me up inside - I had always thought/hoped I would be married by 30-35. At this age it's also unlikely I can change my personality; I'm quiet, not antisocial but not outgoing.
Anyway, since it's very likely I will always be single, any advice for dealing with/accepting never marrying? I take Paxil 30mg, but it's not helping me be content/happy with being alone.

 

[bimbo45]

I'm pushing 40, chronically depressed since I was 16, never married and very few friends. I live alone and work f/t. I have an ugly face so I hardly ever date and have only ever had 1 girlfriend for 4 months!-this situation is extremely PATHETIC!!! I'm finding it hard to make friends at this age, and the chronic singleness is tearing me up inside - I had always thought/hoped I would be married by 30-35. At this age it's also unlikely I can change my personality; I'm quiet, not antisocial but not outgoing.
Anyway, since it's very likely I will always be single, any advice for dealing with/accepting never marrying? I take Paxil 30mg, but it's not helping me be content/happy with being alone.

Yes i am the same and it SUCKS and i am 47.

 

[FlirtyandDirty]

It is NEVER too late to make changes or change your personality. I am 45 and am not the woman I was two years ago. I have a future that I never dreamed possible. Anything is possible if you keep trying and reaching for what you want. It doesn't come easy and takes a lot of grit and determination, but it can be done.


Good luck!!!

 

[SocialRetahd]

Anyway, since it's very likely I will always be single, any advice for dealing with/accepting never marrying? I take Paxil 30mg, but it's not helping me be content/happy with being alone.

30mg is not gonna make much of a dent. You need a to up the dosage or can I recommend switching to effexor?

 

[nerdgirl178]

Hello are you depressed because you have been alone all your life?
My uncle was in your situation. He ended taking up activities, such as learning new languages, travelling a bit, changed where he lived to a new city, this helped him with his depression and he eventually got a girlfriend. He is 43 now! There is always hope :lol: It's never ever too late :wink: