Jobless and inferior

Milooby

Milooby

Member
Just wondering how many people are out of work because of anxiety, depression or anything and getting stick from others for it, an insult to all those hard working people out there etc.
I can't completely blame it on whatevers up with my mind I know I'm capable of doing it its just gonna be extremely difficult and with no support... I'm just out of fight.
But the main point of this is how do other people react i.e asking how the job finding is coming a long... how much effort you're putting into it.
I don't want to explain why because I don't even understand why myself, I'm just a mess... I can't deal with how disgusted people seem when I try to laugh it off.. especially relatives.
I haven't attempted to explain to my parents either and they're sick to death of me.
So does anyone else have this problem?
 
periwinkle1973

periwinkle1973

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RE: Jobless and Inferior

Hi Milooby and all,
I am also jobless (and consequently feel inferior because of it). While in high school I began exhibiting signs of agoraphobia, anxiety and depression and when I graduated it intensified greatly. Therefore, while all of my friends were going to college and getting jobs, I was fighting an uphill battle just to get out of bed in the morning and leave the house. It took me a few years to seek therapy and get to the point I could leave the house and put myself in some controlled social situations. I worked up to the point where I could go to college. I've never had a job...how pathetic is that? At least I feel pathetic because of it. I'm on disability so that I could become independent and stop sponging off of my family (that's a real kick to the self-esteem right there) but I'm filled with shame over it. And soon I'll be getting my master's degree and my disability is getting ready to run out soon so that means I have to find a job. And I'm terrified beyond belief. I've never had a job...how do I explain that to potential employers...I mean my resume is gonna be a joke.

The worst part about it, I think, is what other people think. Their reactions and judgement. I've had friends (FRIENDS!) joke and say they were gonna claim they were nuts so they wouldn't have to work either. I moved away to a different state and no one here knows. Only two or three know about the agoraphobia. My boyfriend doesn't even know I'm on disability and talk about guilt! Everytime I get the guts to tell him something comes up. I just have no clue how to even broach the subject.

Anyway, I'm rambling again, I tend to do that. I just wanted to let you know that I understand where you're coming from. My best to you and good luck.
Christy
 
Septor

Septor

Well-known member
Yea I feel the same way about not having job and feeling inferior about it but i'm working on it. :)
 
turtlegirl

turtlegirl

Active member
Haven't had a job since high school. Not sure how to get one when I live in a small town that never has job openings in the paper, and I have no references or recent work experiences, and cannot drive either. Also I sucked at the jobs I did have, so there goes the confidence. But it's not like people liked me when I worked & went to school. ie no matter what, I'm a loser. Ahhh.
 
Milooby

Milooby

Member
Thanks for all the replies. You seem to have hit the nail on the head periwinkle, being completely dependant on your family is the worst bit (and being reminded a lot) and also how are you supposed to explain why you've been jobless for so long? I need to find somewhere thats so desperate for workers they don't bother with interviews...

you seriously hate capitalism or was that a joke I'm hoping.
Click to expand...

why not? capitalism sucks.
 
ignisfatuus

ignisfatuus

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First of all, congrats to periwinkle on completing your masters. Some people say SA helps them excel at the post-secondary/graduate level, but for me it had the opposite effect. It was a hindrance from the beginning, and I had a premonition when I started my first year that the following years would be ridden with failure. I'm currently sitting two courses away from completing my B.A. and could give a flying fuck if I complete it. It has no value for me other than the increase in income a degree usually commands, which is a shame really, considering the initial desire to drink in as much as I could. Anyways, this wasn't I wanted to post about.

I'm curious as to how others cover up the gap or absence of previous employment in their work history. With no references it is impossible to land even a minimum wage job. I'm considering inventing some references and have someone answer and affirm what I've written down; pathetically though, I don't know anybody, so this won't work. Any suggestions other than trying to find a job through a government agency? I only want to work around a year, while I finish these two courses it has taken my two years to finish (I've dropped four over that time...I just can't build up the initiative to do them and I've built up an extreme intolerance to any sort of evaluation of my writing to the point where I can barely sketch out a paragraph when trying to do an essay).
 
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savage_beagle

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Focus on the solution and not the problem.

HI! Ok, you are jobless at the moment. In the meantime, focus on the solution and not the problem . First, change your view of yourself. You are not inferior and never were. Accept that as your reality. You are a person struggling with self esteem and maybe all you need is more positive people and events in your life to show you a better way of living and thinking. Keep yourself busy with self improvement projects and whenever you can, try to smile and be friendly with everyone you meet. One or more of those people may turn into a friend or a possible lead into a job or reference...or maybe just do it because it feels good to socialize and feel part of something.Volunteer your time to a charity, childrens hospital, animal shelter, food bank etc....it creates more contacts and it boosts your selfworth.Bottom line is= you are not inferior, change your thinking by taking positive action . :wink: Wish you all the best. :)
 
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