Job interview didn't go as I expected.

[needanick]

Hello. I'm new, I've read this forum frequently for the past years, but had never posted because never thought I could contribute with something to this forum.

Anyways, I'm 23 years old, still living at my mother's home and have never had a job, this is very frustrating, I'd love to live at my own place, so I decided to apply online at ups, I had read in this forum that working as package handler was a good job for social phobic people, and so yesterday was the first interview, of course just the fact of going to that interview was a very big effort. This interview consisted of a tour around the company and then some time alone with the interviewer, there were about 20 other people applying for this job and they all looked pretty cool, most of them were talking to each other, while I was in a corner all alone and scary. Then the interviewer called me and she was nice, I was trying my best to not look shy, but my efforts weren't worth, she said I couldn't be that shy with the other interviewer, I really didn't like that comment, isn't this supposed to be a job where being shy doesn't matter? anyways, she asked me if I wanted the second interview right away but I felt so frustrated for her having called me shy when I was making a big effort to not look shy that I told her to please schedule it for next week.

I was really exited about this job, its close to my house and I was gonna choose to work from 10pm to 3am at times where I suppose there's not many people.


have you ever worked at ups warehouse? what did it go?
thanks.

 

[scissorhands]

Hey I know exactly what that is like. It throws me way off when someone calls me on being shy when I try so hard not to.

I had an interview just yesterday for a graphic designer job. I went in shoke the interviewers hand and acted as outgoing as I possibly could. I talked and thought I was doing very well. Then she said "you're a pretty quiet guy right?" and from that point on that was all I could think of was that comment and pretty much went into my shell for the rest of it and barely said a word, just nodded and so on. It was incredibly disappointing after because I know I could have that job if it weren't for my social anxiety, and now I am not sure if I will get a call. And designing packages shouldn't be too demanding socially so I don't get it, wtf.

Anyway, sorry to hear you had a hard time with your interview as well. I know just the time and thoughts leading up to an interview like that is incredibly difficult for people dealing with SAD. I don't feel like doing another interview ever again but I just turned 24 and really need to move out and get my life started.

 

[jellybean]

hiya I think any job is difficult, unlike you guys I have faking it down to a fine art. People don't even realise Im as insecure as I am. Thats not the answer though either coz it's horrible shaking inside when nobody knows and it inevitable gets you into trouble because people don't realise why you are avoiding them when you have been friendly with them etc! by the way scissors Im a graphic designer too you could always work freelance from your home and then you could build up your portfolio and work on your social skills and when you feel stronger go out and look for a job then

 

[scissorhands]

Yeah I am usually very good with job interviews at pretending to be an extroverted person. I have had many jobs and always do great in the interviews. I don't know what happened this time, I thought I was doing well at disguising it then she called me on it and it threw me off. lol
That's awesome you do graphic design. Do you do it from home? i'm actually more into traditional art, I draw comic pages and lean more toward sorytelling illustration that commercial design, and I have a portfolio building right now and eventually would like to get into that, but I live with my girlfriend and her parents right now and living with her parents it is like SAD 24/7, there;s no escape, so I really need some money coming in so I can get an apartment like as soon as possible. lol

 

[HH]

I know all about this. I to am a graphic designer/illustrator and over the past year and a half I've had a few interviews with not much luck. Although I applied for a good design job last year and got through the first interview really well and was accepted for a second interview-agreed to it but a few days later chickened out and said the job wasn't for me via email. The company was huge and all I could think of was that theres way to many people here-I'm freaking out!!
At the moment I work for a small company as a designer and I get on with everyone no problems but I need now to move away from there (been there 3 years) and expand my skills because I'm just not progressing and the moneys crap. It takes me such a long time to fit in when working at a new place. God I hate looking for jobs.

 

[scissorhands]

It takes me such a long time to fit in when working at a new place. God I hate looking for jobs.

I know what you mean. It takes me well over a year of misery and pent up frustration before I feel comfortable in a work place with people. I usually don't make it to that point.

 

[jellybean]

I thought I was going to win the euromillions last night :roll: thats would have meant I could have gone back to college to do fine art something I wish I had always done. Next week Im gonna win for sure! :wink:

 

[scissorhands]

^ haha I'm waiting to win the jackpot to do the same thing. Go back to school for art like I should have done in the first place. lol

 

[jellybean]

ye and apparently it's very "dangerous" for creative people not to express their creativity! we should be painting and drawing n stuff.