HasuSouffle said:
Since I was little I've always been a very shy person, I guess it came from being raised in an Asian family where social interaction isn't exactly encouraged. I'm incredibly scared of going up to talk to people, and I just barely got over being scared of asking for help in a store or stuttering whenever I try to order food at a restaurant. My problem is that people never seem to want to approach or talk to me, yet it seems so easy for everyone else to attract tons of people to them at social gatherings. Even other girls who are generally quiet seem to be able to get way more people to talk to them than I can! So I'm wonder is it something just plain unlikable about me? I'm not ugly or anything, so it can't be a looks issue, but I wonder if my shyness is being misconstrued as arrogance?
Probably may have already heard this, but i think the reason you may not be able to have many approaching you (for now atleast!) in social situation, is simply because of the attitude/energy/emotions, whatever it is your carrying with you. I too am not ugly, but i despite being recognised as the best looking guy in my grade by many girls (was a loner anyways), i would always carry a shitty attitude about ymself around, and thats what it seems you have troubles with. You know . . . . you can be quiet like the other girls and play cute, timid, nervous like you see some highly adored actresses play in old-school movies, but atleast love yourself and be happy in your own shoes. Don't doubt yourself in life, don't worry or give a damn what others think. I might also add, that your shyness i'm guessing probably isn't misconstrued as arrogance, but instead low self-esteem. Now my sister on the other hand, who is an absaloute loud, attention craving, typical teenage drama queen even tells me herself, that she recognises that there are guys who are shy and so forth, however when i ask why she doesn't talk to them or see others talk to them, she tells me simply something along the lines of: 'its just people don't like being rejected either by the shy, or experiencing an akward moment, even if your not shy i guess you can worry very much about social situations too.' So IMO people recognise SA or shyness fair more easily then many of us percieve, so i think if anything needs working on, it may be you having to learn to develop more confidence in general in a fair range of social circumstances, otherwise i really believe you can. Good luck with it.