is knowing what you have really helpful?

[JonnyD]

sorry i don't want to take anyones motivation.

but i'm really sad now. since i found out what i may have (i dont know if it SA or AvPD or other thing, and i try not to assume anything it's for a doctor to tell) , i've noticed things that i do that are wrong, but now i don't know if i'm noticing the things i already did or i'm getting worst everyday.

I just hanged the phone, but and got really nervous my hands are still shaking, i'm working right now and i generally don't answer calls but i've never get this nervous in the phone before, genereally i could handle this , but my hands were shaking so much that i needed to ask the person to wait

Just yesterday i was comming home, and started raining and i hide from the rain with some people and felt normal at all, and today i can't control myself because of a phone call!

 

[sketchy24]

Yes and no... It can easily become a crutch when things get to hard. Blame it on the SA.... You can't help it, theres no hope, somethings wrong you can't fix it. I find myself slipping into these areas every now and then. I mean before I knew, I just kept pushing and wondering why I was never going anywhere with it.

On the flip side.. knowing has helped me immensely. I read up a lot about it. I read about what others experience (that I at first couldn't believe people were feeling like since I always thought it was just me), and I started really paying attention to myself. Trying to think positive when I'm beating myself down etc. Since having a job I have been able to try new things daily to try and break through this barrier. Somedays are better than others. But I always tell myself, I can always try again tomorrow. Since I've had a job and really only in the last year have I changed a lot regarding SA. Because I know what to look for, I know whats causing me to be anxious, and I know no one is really paying attention to me and my mess ups except myself who is my own worse enemy. Also.. its helpful when telling other people about it know that I know its an actual medical disorder. Not that I tell many but when I get extremely comfortable, I dont mind sharing and surprisingly they can understand some of it (I mean, really, everyone faces the exact same stuff, just we tend to magnify the problem, assume its just us, and then beat ourselves up over it).

So ya I'd say its helped. But its easy to lean on it as a crutch too especially when you're really feeling bad. And it sure is hard coming out of one of these moods too. Plus you tend to feel any progress you made just evaporated or wasn't there to begin with. But I dunno.. I've been holding myself up pretty well regardless. Just gotta keep positive and constantly challenge yourself daily. It's taken me a good two years and I'm still a social phobe but I'm miles better off today then I was two years ago. So who knows where I'll be 2 years from now ^_^

 

[GloomySunday]

Knowing what you have can be very helpful, if that diagnosis is indeed the correct one. It will allow you to access the right help and support with the ultimate aim of improving your situation.

"Knowing what you have" does not necessarily mean "Knowing what you will always be".

I used to abuse drugs but I accepted I was an addict and was able to address the situation and turn my life around. It helped me then to know what I was. To give it a name. Now it's been six years since I took a drug and I no longer have any desire to ever do it again. Not even in the slightest.

Since then I have turned my life around to a massive degree by treating every day as an opportunity and I know that one day you will be able to do the same, whatever your diagnosis may be.