Also free is
www.plentyoffish.com
I've done nothing on that site in months and months, but still occasionally get a note from a woman
(twice this week, in fact-- a bumper crop) -- not often, but it happens. Try it!
I also used to recommend a pay site for people who don't automatically rule out potential partners with a few extra pounds-- largefriends.com-- but they just doubled their pricing (to $20) and there aren't many things you can do free on that site. Yet, I got a decent amount of responses and even unsolicited emails on that site ... and I'm not rich, perfect, nor absolutely stunning
... women do give you 'points' for clever and well-written profiles, though (/end horn toot
) However, this seems to be one site where the women outnumber the men ...
Yahoo's service wasn't bad when it was free years back, but now it's expensive AND you don't get much attention out of it.
And sometimes you can write a message to someone who seems liek they'd be interested and never get a reply. Sometimes it's cuz you guessed wrong
, sometimes the person =never got the message or is no longer using the site (people never take down old ads it seems), or they're chatting with too many people. Many women will just ignore a message rather than write back to say "thanks but no thanks" due to the fact that women are very very VERY often stalked online by some seriously creepy people. (EVERY female I know who chats on Yahoo, ferinstance). Along with the fact that most personals sites are very male-heavy, any man can't expect a lot of attention on these sites, and has to expend some effort (more than one "should have to"
so to speak) to get any. BUT IT'S POSSIBLE. Hell, the vast majority of my dating/relationship experience was made possible by the Internet.
I know some might kill to have this problem, but my problem is that, for quite a while now, I haven't really been at all interested in any of the people who expressed interest in me, and, of course, really dig the ones who end up ignoring me. Sigh. I wonder if I'm even capable of love anymore, actually, as I haven't felt anything like it in years now... and the person I've been most recently dating, who's got a great heart and is very understanding and accepting of all my myriad faults, I just somehow, for no reason I can determine, find myself not falling for. It's ridiculous. I feel like I'm in the process of blowing a chance (perhaps the last?) at something real for this disaster of a boy (me!), but I just can't fake it and string someone along for my own benefit ... OK, I went off-topic, sorry.
