Incompetent? (sorry long post)

[Danfalc]

I had my appointment today with my phychiatrist.. he asked me how i was doing and i said not good at all... i did say i was really depressed.He asked me how i was going on the new meds and i said i wasnt sure because i had a slight lift while on them for a bit but dropped and was down again.and aslo explained they were causing me sleep problems and sexual problems.He asked about my mum and i told him i was finding it difficult dealing with her illness aswell as my own.So like normal after only being in for maybe 5 minutes at the most i was out again.. maybe its my fault that i struggle to talk about my issues and need to open up more.

But while i was putting my gloves and that on outside in the corridor,i heard him speaking into a voice recorder about the session.He said "daniel feels the medication he is on has helped him and is the best one hes been on yet.He is not a danger to himself and no intenion of self harm or killing himself.And the only are of concern was dealing with his mother" He went on to say some numbers and stuff i didnt understand then said... "diagnosis... social phobia and avoidant personality disorder"

Seeing as ive been seeing him for maybe over 2 years now,having to over hear that i also had avp wasnt a nice way of finding out.. Plus if hes my doctor he really should know im a chronic self harmer and have struggled with it for years now and often do self harm... plus i might not be trying to kill myself currently.. but i feel suicidal on and off most of the time.So am i right to be annoyed?.. that hes said i havnt like got issues with stuff when he hasnt asked me? or do i need to open up more with him.. the thing is tho i do tell him lots of stuff but he doesnt seem to listen and take it in or discuss it with me.He only asks questions he wants to know the answers to i think.. and what he recored on the voice thing is kinda opposite of what the reality is.

This has really made me feel shit cos ive been seeing this guy for like 2 years,and basicaly but my trust in him with somthing that is so serious to my life..and while ive always found him hard to talk to and not very understanding,i always thought he was trying his best but now im really confused :? i often have to remind him what medication im on which he should know seeing as he gives them me like smarties,plus hes treating me and my mum which itself here in the uk shouldnt be allowed.

 

[LittleMissMuffet]

I'm not sure what to say exactly. But for me, if it were two years and I still felt like the bond between me and my psychiatrist was not good then I would look for another. They cost enough.
And besides, I've seen two and both seem to think they know more than they do. Sometimes that arrogant distanced attitude is more harmful than helpful.

Perhaps say to your psychiatrist that you are considering seeing someone else. When he asks you why, you could say that you overheard him say that you aren't suicidal and are amazed that he could misunderstand you. Perhaps this will get him to pay better attention to you or otherwise you can find someone who will.

Anyhow, if you disagree -I am just saying what I would probably do.

The other thing is to find a concelor who charges you very little. In this way you get a different opinion and preferably it is someone who goes easy on the diagnosis -and doesn't have any of that know-it-all, standoffish superiority that some psychiatrists seem to suffer from. I have a councelor and she avoids labels and is much much less inclined to being cold and less inclined to looking down on me as some "marked" human being. My psychiatrist on the other hand, gives these looks whenever I mention such an idea -I call it the cat at a mouse look, because she is a bit inclined to get prejudiced. In fact, the other day when I mentioned a 5 year old relative who, having a similar personality to me, my sister had called "cursed" or something like that. My psychiatrist gave me that look that she gets, that "I'm the sane perfect doctor and your the mental defective". ....I immediately said then that such an attitude towards people is in fact completely illogical -and this totally wiped that superior look off her face!!! :lol: 8)

...So don't let these so-called "professionals" get to you. Some of them get-off a bit by being in such a powerful position where they get to call others sane and dysfunctional. -Despite their best attempts at appearing otherwise, these people are very much human. And only the best psychiatrists will acknowledge being so. ...Did you know that 9 of 11 of the psychiatrists working for Sigmund Freud committed suicide...? What does that tell you. Or that official studies revealed that some percentage like 1 in 4 psychiatrists will actually diagnose a healthy person as having a disorder. ....Treat their diagnoses as their desparate attempt to understand what humankind falls short of understanding. That's all that they are. Keep your chin up, because in this world, sometimes the psychiatrists commit suicide and the crazy emerge the most sane.

 

[Danfalc]

Thanks for the reply,first off yeah that cold clinical distance doesnt help,i mean i find it hard enough talking about stuff without feeling like a lab rat being studied.I dont think im going to confront him about what has happend maybe i should but.Ive had confrontations with him before and he just digs his heels in and turns everything round on me and i dont think i can cope with a drawn out sorta argument with the health service at the moment.But yeah i think ya right and i should try and see another person and possibly a concelor who might have a different perspective on the whole thing.

Im still finding it hard he totaly lied tho,okay maybe presuming some stuff might of been a mistake but he completley twisted what i had said about the medication it didnt help me really and definatley wasnt the best i had been on :x i guess i shouldnt be so suprised like ya said there just human and im used to being mucked around by every other goverment service so why should the health service be any different.

Anyway totaly sidetracking,glad you wiped that smug look off her face... priceless stuff Seriously thank you for the reply LittleMM,its apreciated.

I'm not sure what to say exactly. But for me, if it were two years and I still felt like the bond between me and my psychiatrist was not good then I would look for another. They cost enough.
And besides, I've seen two and both seem to think they know more than they do. Sometimes that arrogant distanced attitude is more harmful than helpful.

Perhaps say to your psychiatrist that you are considering seeing someone else. When he asks you why, you could say that you overheard him say that you aren't suicidal and are amazed that he could misunderstand you. Perhaps this will get him to pay better attention to you or otherwise you can find someone who will.

Anyhow, if you disagree -I am just saying what I would probably do.

The other thing is to find a concelor who charges you very little. In this way you get a different opinion and preferably it is someone who goes easy on the diagnosis -and doesn't have any of that know-it-all, standoffish superiority that some psychiatrists seem to suffer from. I have a councelor and she avoids labels and is much much less inclined to being cold and less inclined to looking down on me as some "marked" human being. My psychiatrist on the other hand, gives these looks whenever I mention such an idea -I call it the cat at a mouse look, because she is a bit inclined to get prejudiced. In fact, the other day when I mentioned a 5 year old relative who, having a similar personality to me, my sister had called "cursed" or something like that. My psychiatrist gave me that look that she gets, that "I'm the sane perfect doctor and your the mental defective". ....I immediately said then that such an attitude towards people is in fact completely illogical -and this totally wiped that superior look off her face!!! :lol: 8)

...So don't let these so-called "professionals" get to you. Some of them get-off a bit by being in such a powerful position where they get to call others sane and dysfunctional. -Despite their best attempts at appearing otherwise, these people are very much human. And only the best psychiatrists will acknowledge being so. ...Did you know that 9 of 11 of the psychiatrists working for Sigmund Freud committed suicide...? What does that tell you. Or that official studies revealed that some percentage like 1 in 4 psychiatrists will actually diagnose a healthy person as having a disorder. ....Treat their diagnoses as their desparate attempt to understand what humankind falls short of understanding. That's all that they are. Keep your chin up, because in this world, sometimes the psychiatrists commit suicide and the crazy emerge the most sane.