mind said:
I’m not rich. Why would a woman want to go out with me?
It's better not to be rich and not have a wife/girlfriend than be rich and have one. In the latter case, they really don't love you, and there's been cases where they actually kill their spouses through poison to get their inheritance. Or in less extreme cases, they'll cheat on you, and that sucks too especially when you have children and when you realize she's milking you for your $.
mind said:
I’m not built like a lineman. A woman won’t be attracted to me.
Me neither. In some places in this country, without perfect physical build we don't even get considered.
mind said:
When a woman rejects me, it more evidence I'm a loser.
Rejection doesn't matter. Like me, you should be proud of rejection. It makes you different, unique. If women reject you, find something you can do that will make you accepted. What I mean is, trying to "get" the hottest girl in a school, for instance, is really not such a worthwhile objective. Donating a whole wad of saved up cash to Darfur, working very hard to get good grades, working very hard to find favor with a boss in a job, or succeeding in your own business, or excelling at a hobby of your choice; these release dopamine in your brain and make you just as happy as getting the girl who it would seem would always reject you. Trust me, those girls who flaunt themselves and those who dislike you at first glance just aren't worth fretting over.
mind said:
Women don't like sex and women don't like guys who want it.
Well I can't relate to this, since I have a lower sex drive than most people. In fact, girls seem to want sex far more than I do. The ones you know are probably just real subtle about it.
mind said:
When I'm with an attractive woman, I wonder how I got so lucky.
Can't relate, I've never been 'with' a woman, other than like, talking and walking alongside them. But it's fine to feel lucky I guess.
mind said:
I am not attractive to women.
Yeah me neither bro.
mind said:
If I ask a woman out, I'm committing to a relationship (so I never do).
I can't relate to this either, I'm desparate for a relationship.
mind said:
When women smile at me, they are laughing at me. Waiting for an opportunity to shut me down.
That's not true. Most of the time when they smile at you it's because they think you're cute. I have to deal with women smiling at me a lot of times, even when I friggin went on a trip to China it was still happening. And then I smiled back weakly and she laughed along with all her hot uniformed-schoolgirl friends (this sort of pattern repeats itself for me). If they laugh, it's not
at you really, and if it is, it's because again they probably find you cute. I don't really know what else it implies, cuz the farthest I've ever "gone" was a girl smiling at me.
mind said:
Do you identify with that? Not trying to be negative, just trying to get it out clearly so that I might get some insight from others.
Brother, as one of the most crippled-by-love-shyness guys on this website, I can relate to almost everything you posted. I've got female friends who I tell literally all these problems to, they give me advice just like las chicas below your post, and I try to follow every bit of it, and it just doesn't work. It's all about the release of certain chemicals by the body that get picked up by others' brains, which then release certain chemicals which spark sexual interest or attraction. So for those of us that have problems releasing and receiving those chemicals, we just have to try life without love. Just make sure we get ourselves some children since that's the scientific purpose of life. That's the only true love that exists- between you and a parent and between you and your child. And G-d bless the poor people who never had the former.
