i sound like a drag to be with
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signs05
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I don't really understand the question, you think others view you as boring? Is that your concern?
If it is, its pretty illogical, I dont think of the people I'm around as being boring or fun, everyone has a bit of each.
If some people see us as boring thats a shame, however it says nothing about us and doesnt really matter, we cant please everyone, nor should we try to!
If it is, its pretty illogical, I dont think of the people I'm around as being boring or fun, everyone has a bit of each.
If some people see us as boring thats a shame, however it says nothing about us and doesnt really matter, we cant please everyone, nor should we try to!
JamesMorgan
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I have also experienced millions of times. The thing is we talk too much. Who do we talk to? Our self.
We listen to our own thoughts so often dont we?
This lack of enthusiasm to talk to others usually comes from our dissapated energy coming from listening to our negative thoughts, leaving us too tired and energyless to engage.
Drained confused and wanting to be alone most of the time we'd rather recooperate than tirelessly feel uncomfortable in another anxious conversation illuminating again our lack of social skills. What a life?
So what do we do?
Learn to realign our energy so that we are in a positive state of mind whilst engaging with others, then we will enjoy it. If we dont enjoy it, we just create more aversion and unwanted negativity. We need to be skillful in applying our energy with others given our current capacity and social skill so we shouldnt be too hard on ourself. Slowly, happily, short but enjoyful conversations and so on, then retreat to gain strength again not constant worry about the next conversation.
James
We listen to our own thoughts so often dont we?
This lack of enthusiasm to talk to others usually comes from our dissapated energy coming from listening to our negative thoughts, leaving us too tired and energyless to engage.
Drained confused and wanting to be alone most of the time we'd rather recooperate than tirelessly feel uncomfortable in another anxious conversation illuminating again our lack of social skills. What a life?
So what do we do?
Learn to realign our energy so that we are in a positive state of mind whilst engaging with others, then we will enjoy it. If we dont enjoy it, we just create more aversion and unwanted negativity. We need to be skillful in applying our energy with others given our current capacity and social skill so we shouldnt be too hard on ourself. Slowly, happily, short but enjoyful conversations and so on, then retreat to gain strength again not constant worry about the next conversation.
James
groove88
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Thats a very good call James. Thks
80% of the time i could quiet easily beleive its down to a restructuring process in the brain. Its very challenging. I agree in the sense because i have been thinking in the same way you explained and im seeing results. Takes its time.
Im also supplementing with Fish Oil and i really think this is helping..
80% of the time i could quiet easily beleive its down to a restructuring process in the brain. Its very challenging. I agree in the sense because i have been thinking in the same way you explained and im seeing results. Takes its time.
Im also supplementing with Fish Oil and i really think this is helping..