I NEED HELP!

insecticon

insecticon

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Okay. Well i have been in a relationship now for about 4 years, it has been off and on since august of last year.
WELL my boyfriend had this problem, he likes watching porn, and well it bothers me.
it has always bothered me, and i tried to be cool with it and let him but it gets to me... i feel like im not enough... it makes me feel like crap.
is this strange? anyone have a similar problem...
i dont know what to do.... im asking him to stop and he says "i will try my best" which means... "im going to probably slip up and watch it"
i dont know what to do...
any suggestions?!
thanks :D
 
quietlyobserving

quietlyobserving

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I hate it and i banned my bf from looking at it, at first i didnt say much about it when we first got together but i made him remove any material from the house n comp. He became extremely sneaky about but im way smarter than that, and continually i find that he has been looking at it. i came home early from an appointment the other day (this was not on purpose) and caught him red handed, so to speak. It really pissed me off and i thought about leaving him, but we have 2 kids. It causes people to lie and can also become an addiction AND can also lead to other things like 'seeking out' private sexual partners and cheating. If you feel strongly against it tell him its banned or he's outta there. If he actually gives a shit about you then he will make an effort. It will continuilly make you feel like shit. It has to stop.
 
insecticon

insecticon

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WELL i would "sex it up" but we decided to save sex for marrige now because we both are trying to be good christians.... its tough though.
Sadly i did break it off in a fit the other night, but i do want to work it out... i was so pissed because he told me he had watched it that night we broke up! i couldnt believe it! so he says hes going to "try his best", i guess i shall wait and see. He has lied to my face about it before but since we had gotten back together 2 months ago he has been honest about it.
I cant believe you caught your boyfriend! I would have been so mad!!!
In all honesty i use to watch porn a lot when i was younger, it was a bad problem and people really do get addicted... Now that im older i just stopped and realized how dirty and degrading it really is... so i stopped and my boyfriend/ex says he hates the fact that he watches it and feels horrible after... i want him to get help and i hope it works.
thanks for the replys :]
 
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