I hate this.

[sarahjane]

I found out about 3 months ago that I have been suffering with Anxiety. I was prescribed Xanex and therapy. But the therapy was to expensive. I feel like I have lost 3 months of my life already and I have read some of your posts and I realize that alot of you have been dealing with this for a long time. I feel so frustrated and trapped in my body, I have a self help book, which I can relate to, and It helps for me to talk. I want to hear that this will get easier.
Today I feel very Dizzy and Im getting frustrated and worried..... Deep breaths.....

 

[visit_faraz]

damn, i hate it when people start to see themselves as having a mental disorder or having an anxiety problem.
please dont start labeling yourself as a person with anxiety problem. this will just keep you trying to get better. you will keep seeing yourself as someone who is troubled and you will continue looking for solutions.

But you know what . the problem is that you think that you have this anxiety problem and now you have to do something about it. what is anxiety actually . some thoughts, you have worrying thoughts, which seem to be out of your control.

and then you start worrying about worrying too much. and then you give it a name and start identifying yourself with it.
i am saying all this because i have been there and believe me. most of the therapies are like shit. just making you continue your treatment. and i dont think that there will come a time when you will be able to see that yes i am okay now. because you will start seeing yourself as a person with disorder. that will become your self image and you wont be able to change that.

When i read this forum ,most of the posts are like asking for some sympathy . see, in your case also. you have not asked for anything specific. what sort of help do you want. or have you come to this forum to get a sense of belonging. like, i belong to the group where people have anxiety problems. this way you will never be able to get over it.

do you want to stop your worrying. what are the things that you are worrying about. what sort of help do you want. what should happen to make you feel that you are okay now. these are the sort of specific questions that you should ask yourself. write them down. and then come to the forum and ask. you will get much better answers , instead of some sympathy.

bye,
faraz

 

[sarahjane]

oh good point visit_faraz. Im here because it helps to talk about how I feel. I have good days which is when i almost feel normal and then I get days like today and for the past 3 days where I feel dizzy (as if Im on a boat) is this normal? I dont want sympathy, what I want to is hear that I can overcome this.

 

[visit_faraz]

you can certainly overcome this. and it is really good that you dont want any sympathy.
the point i want to make is not to give too much importance to the problem because that will make the problem continue.
most of the people start identifying themselves with their problems. the problem becomes a part of them making it almost impossible to get over it.
people start seeing themselves as a depressed person or an anxious person or an angry person.
so what happens is that the angry person is fighting with his anger and the depressed person fighting with depression.
but just observe that the angry person or the depressed person is not there anymore if the anger or depression is not there anymore. so, the person becomes uncomfortable . being without anger or depression does not match his self image. because he has become used to seeing himself as that person.

i have used anger and depression as an example . and it could be any other problem that people have.
but you get the point , i hope.

dont mind. just trying to help.
bye,
faraz

 

[sarahjane]

Thanks Faraz it does help