Johnny_Charm
Member
It's been a while since my last post but I never really had anything to say.
Now I do!! Social phobia can be cured! You can be cured!
Why didn't I see it all along? It was right under my nose and I didn't even see the cure right there in front of me! Staring at me! And it's so simple! In my attempts to become 'normal' (aka not shy), I kept trying to desensitize myself. Trying to face the fear over and over again and learn to just blend in, despite how horrible and anxious I felt inside. I was shaping myself to try to fit the world around me. Trying to be 'liked'. Even though people I meet everywhere seem to think I'm pretty cool, I could never see it. I guess in retrospect, I was pretty desperate. I was trying to force myself to change in terms of personality and even emotionality (if that's even a real word).
WRONG TURN!! Do not attempt the things I did. What I did was what only the most severe of desperate people in a desperate scenario should do. And, even in that case, it's hardly justifiable.
Want to know what I did? I became myself again!! That's right! I don't care if I'm crazy happy, it makes me feel great just to put myself out there. Why should I put on a fake frown in order to try to blend in? Granted, I'm not overbearingly fake about the happiness I feel, but it's just the honest, true, wholehearted thing that's been dying to come out of me for so long! I don't even care if people think I'm crazy!
And the best part is... I'm allowed to feel anything I want to! Be it happiness, depression, anger, anxiety... all is welcome as experience and only that. But, mind you, somehow in this neutral, emotionally accepting state of mind... I just automatically feel great!
Want to know something else? YOU can do the same thing too! Be yourself, no matter what anybody around you says! You can find acceptance, you can find whatever it is you're looking for here on planet earth. Except, most people who supposedly want to break free from social anxiety don't actually want to, underneath it all, because they're emotionally addicted to the feeling of negativity and might feel alone without it.
Fill the void. Do it today. If your friends won't like you for the real you, once you decide to find 'you' again, you need new friends. IF you might get fired from the job you have by being yourself... you need a new job. If your own family doesn't accept you for the real you - YOU need a new family. And by family, the meaning is left open to be whatever you want for it to be.
The point is, you're the master. Forget what ANYBODY says, drop EVERYTHING you're doing... and be yourself. Don't conform. Happiness and acceptance are here and can be found no matter who you are. So take a chance. Expose your true colors to the open air and don't feel afraid. I know this was a lot to read, but you have to believe me. You have to believe you. Have some faith in who you are, you're beautiful. You;re even more beautiful in your natural form - being nothing short of everything you truly are.
So stand up. Make a change. Be an example. Don't settle for less than what you are. Don't cover up who you are. Don't change who you are. It's absolutely NEVER worth it in the end. Plus, life is short. Spend it being who you are. No matter if you're crazy, highly imaginative, eccentric, flamboyant... or hell, all of the above.
Due to the fact that I care so much about each and every one of you who is in the situation I was in, I want YOU to personally contact me about any questions you have, concerns about this post, or just a little sliver of help if need be. Why? Because I feel like it's extremely important to me to at least offer a word of advice on the topic. And because you are important, I want everybody here to know that.
Also, I'm unfortunately not selling anything... everything here is real as it gets. This is me, I'm exposing me to you, and I want you to learn to do the same! You have no idea what freedom is until you've felt it yourself.
Anyway, have an awesome week. I look forward to reading your hatemail or whatever's in store!!
[email protected]
Peace!
Now I do!! Social phobia can be cured! You can be cured!
Why didn't I see it all along? It was right under my nose and I didn't even see the cure right there in front of me! Staring at me! And it's so simple! In my attempts to become 'normal' (aka not shy), I kept trying to desensitize myself. Trying to face the fear over and over again and learn to just blend in, despite how horrible and anxious I felt inside. I was shaping myself to try to fit the world around me. Trying to be 'liked'. Even though people I meet everywhere seem to think I'm pretty cool, I could never see it. I guess in retrospect, I was pretty desperate. I was trying to force myself to change in terms of personality and even emotionality (if that's even a real word).
WRONG TURN!! Do not attempt the things I did. What I did was what only the most severe of desperate people in a desperate scenario should do. And, even in that case, it's hardly justifiable.
Want to know what I did? I became myself again!! That's right! I don't care if I'm crazy happy, it makes me feel great just to put myself out there. Why should I put on a fake frown in order to try to blend in? Granted, I'm not overbearingly fake about the happiness I feel, but it's just the honest, true, wholehearted thing that's been dying to come out of me for so long! I don't even care if people think I'm crazy!
And the best part is... I'm allowed to feel anything I want to! Be it happiness, depression, anger, anxiety... all is welcome as experience and only that. But, mind you, somehow in this neutral, emotionally accepting state of mind... I just automatically feel great!
Want to know something else? YOU can do the same thing too! Be yourself, no matter what anybody around you says! You can find acceptance, you can find whatever it is you're looking for here on planet earth. Except, most people who supposedly want to break free from social anxiety don't actually want to, underneath it all, because they're emotionally addicted to the feeling of negativity and might feel alone without it.
Fill the void. Do it today. If your friends won't like you for the real you, once you decide to find 'you' again, you need new friends. IF you might get fired from the job you have by being yourself... you need a new job. If your own family doesn't accept you for the real you - YOU need a new family. And by family, the meaning is left open to be whatever you want for it to be.
The point is, you're the master. Forget what ANYBODY says, drop EVERYTHING you're doing... and be yourself. Don't conform. Happiness and acceptance are here and can be found no matter who you are. So take a chance. Expose your true colors to the open air and don't feel afraid. I know this was a lot to read, but you have to believe me. You have to believe you. Have some faith in who you are, you're beautiful. You;re even more beautiful in your natural form - being nothing short of everything you truly are.
So stand up. Make a change. Be an example. Don't settle for less than what you are. Don't cover up who you are. Don't change who you are. It's absolutely NEVER worth it in the end. Plus, life is short. Spend it being who you are. No matter if you're crazy, highly imaginative, eccentric, flamboyant... or hell, all of the above.
Due to the fact that I care so much about each and every one of you who is in the situation I was in, I want YOU to personally contact me about any questions you have, concerns about this post, or just a little sliver of help if need be. Why? Because I feel like it's extremely important to me to at least offer a word of advice on the topic. And because you are important, I want everybody here to know that.
Also, I'm unfortunately not selling anything... everything here is real as it gets. This is me, I'm exposing me to you, and I want you to learn to do the same! You have no idea what freedom is until you've felt it yourself.
Anyway, have an awesome week. I look forward to reading your hatemail or whatever's in store!!
[email protected]
Peace!
