juventino1980
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hey guys hows it going? i have a problem but i dont know if its social anxiety or just shyness.i dont remember for how long but ive had anxiety attacks, doubts, i dont know what there called exactly during social situations for years. i have problems talking to new people but it triples when it is a woman. when im at work, i talk to my coworkers but im in safe mode. if i dont know the person, i cant be myself.you guys might have guessed it but im single and i dont want to be single. ive been called cute(the good cute) during college but i never did anything because of this negative anxiety way of thinking i have. when im a clubs, i feel ackward and think people r lookin at me. when i drink it goes down a bit but im still conscious and dont really end up socializing unless its my buddies. im a confident guy with people i know well. im pretty open with my buddies but if they bring a girlfriend or maybe someone i dont know, i close up and too nervous to say anything.last week i went to my cousins wedding and seen 2 ladies i havent seen for 15 years and looked awesome, one had a boyfriend but that isnt the point. i talked to these ladies 15 years ago like they were friends and now i cant even make eye contact without lookin away.too be honest, i knew i had this problem for years but the wedding really hurt and now i want to do something about it. i dont wanna go through this the rest of my life.it took a big chunk already and i cant get that back. i want to talk to people without being so nervous. can anyone give me suggestions????
. . . meh, i'm not really in search of ways to improve my socialising much . . . . mainly due to me wanting to understand my problem first with my psycho analysis, and just out of pure laziness, careless, what ever. Theres many different ways you can go about handling these situations. Personally when i'm outside, wearing bland, boring sun glasses has helped me socialise, and i pictured that would be perfect for an outdoor wedding on a sunny day lol.