I Cant have a normal relationship.....

[nunvangus]

I have only just realised that since i discovered i had social anxiety i haven’t been able to have a normal relation with a guy.... And all the dates i have been on recently have been in a bar where i can use alcohol to clam my nerves.

Ive recently met the man of my dreams and i say that as he is (so far) everything i have ever wanted in someone. We met in a bar about a month ago and hes been away on business for the passed 3 weeks. We spoke everyday over the phone and have actually have such an amazing connection. It is clear that we both like each other very much BUT...

My social issues limit me from going to certain places. Were going out on Friday and he wants to take me to a romantic restaurant but my anxiety in restaurants is like 100X worse than anywhere else. I was thinking of saying lets do something else but im not too sure He doesnt even drink so i cant says lets go for a quiet drink!!! Once i have met someone a few times i am usually fine but this guy is also really confident which sometimes makes me worse as someone who is a little shy makes me feel relaxed!

Hes also spoke about me meeting his family which scares me to death... ahhhhhhhh!!! As even just thinking about a family meal round the table makes me feel sick!!!!!

I used to be so confident what happened to me ::

 

[Seasons]

So, I'm not sure I'm following... You've met this person one month ago and he's been away for the past 3 weeks and he already wants you to meet his family?
Does that mean that you're in a relationship as such?
And I'm sorry to ask, but how can you know he's the man of your dreams in such a short period of time?

Anyway, with time I guess you'll become more comfortable with him once you've gotten used to one another. He doesn't drink alcohol but you can always go for coffee in a quiet place.
Good luck!

 

[Blaze]

At least your able to meet new people. The only people I've met since I've graduated HS are people online. People at work don't count cause my interaction with them is only at work. I really hope that this man is really who you want him to be. Best of luck. =]