iamantisocial
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On a scale of 1-5 with 5 being REALLY severe and 1 being MILD.
How severe is your Social Phobia?
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scatmantom
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i wanted to vote 2, but then i remembered I havnt been to a new night club in over a year due to my Anxiety :x
happypants2
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what does everybody think about the assertion that almost all SA in essence stems from the harmful behavior of - the concious act of being so overly outgoing that you're not really being yourself (which is one of various ways to underparticipate in social interaction) - in response to learned fear, instead of facing the fear in a more healthy way. I think that this is a large contributing factor because you are abondoning your emotions and tricking yourself into believing falsely positive thoughts, also you are disconnecting yourself from the real outside world. I think a person engaging in this behavior quickly forgets how to relate normally to people. I am just a person who used to be a normal kid, and now has SA although it has declined considerably because of cognitive behavioral therapy and mindfulness. looking back on my life, I wish that I had never engaged in this "emotion abondonment" behavior and instead faced the fear the way I am now, (rationally among other things) the way they teach you in cognitive behavioral therapy. Looking back on the last few years, I have realized that I was facing life in the completely wrong manner. :idea: maybe it's just me, i dont know.
other interesting ideas:
the only real important social interaction in life is direct interaction between two or more people that involve emotions and makes your life more meaningful. all other dialougue is ensentially worthless. being loud and talking to no one in particular (or thinking your talking/interacting with someone but actually more talking at them) may feel good in the short term, but in the long term, (its also important to note that I think actually interacting with others causes more anxiety than the former, which is why many SA revert to just talking at people and such) in relation to your life, and wanting to be the most fullfilled person you can be, what purpose does it really serve.
its possible that in your past (probably not so much before you had social anxiety, but more after you started realizing there was a problem), instead of seeking out people who you feel generally comfortable around, want to be with to feel good and interact with, you have focused mainly on impressing others. everybody is victim to wanting to impress others to some extent, but this behavior in excess can cause pressure to engage in "emotional abondonment" behavior, does not involve emotional interaction with others (also it is imporant to note that thoughts, emotions, and actions are all connected, for example identifying your thoughts will help to identify your emotions), and also causes the extra stress of thinking you always have to impress others.
learning to reconnect again normally with people is definately possible, but it takes time, dedication, and hard work, (and usually therapy or knoledge of theraputic methods for social anxiety, such as cognitive therapy and mindfullness).
ALSO, PLEASE DONT TAKE ME SERIOUSLY, THERE IS A VERY GOOD CHANCE I HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO IDEA WHAT I AM TALKING ABOUT, THESE ARE JUST IDEAS.
I also realize that because of anxiety, irrational thoughts come with the turf, which includes irrational thoughts about social anxiety, but i think that over various years I have become better at realizing which thoughts are irrational and which might actually have some merit.
(C) a guy who probably doesn't know what he's talking about
and also, this post rambled alot, but my original intent was to dscuss the "emotional abondonment" behavior, and its role in social anxiety.
other interesting ideas:
the only real important social interaction in life is direct interaction between two or more people that involve emotions and makes your life more meaningful. all other dialougue is ensentially worthless. being loud and talking to no one in particular (or thinking your talking/interacting with someone but actually more talking at them) may feel good in the short term, but in the long term, (its also important to note that I think actually interacting with others causes more anxiety than the former, which is why many SA revert to just talking at people and such) in relation to your life, and wanting to be the most fullfilled person you can be, what purpose does it really serve.
its possible that in your past (probably not so much before you had social anxiety, but more after you started realizing there was a problem), instead of seeking out people who you feel generally comfortable around, want to be with to feel good and interact with, you have focused mainly on impressing others. everybody is victim to wanting to impress others to some extent, but this behavior in excess can cause pressure to engage in "emotional abondonment" behavior, does not involve emotional interaction with others (also it is imporant to note that thoughts, emotions, and actions are all connected, for example identifying your thoughts will help to identify your emotions), and also causes the extra stress of thinking you always have to impress others.
learning to reconnect again normally with people is definately possible, but it takes time, dedication, and hard work, (and usually therapy or knoledge of theraputic methods for social anxiety, such as cognitive therapy and mindfullness).
ALSO, PLEASE DONT TAKE ME SERIOUSLY, THERE IS A VERY GOOD CHANCE I HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO IDEA WHAT I AM TALKING ABOUT, THESE ARE JUST IDEAS.
I also realize that because of anxiety, irrational thoughts come with the turf, which includes irrational thoughts about social anxiety, but i think that over various years I have become better at realizing which thoughts are irrational and which might actually have some merit.
(C) a guy who probably doesn't know what he's talking about
and also, this post rambled alot, but my original intent was to dscuss the "emotional abondonment" behavior, and its role in social anxiety.
lifes_to_long
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1 wen im drunk 5 wen im not.yeh you cant really say i mean no one can compare it or see it from anothers perspective. personally I think a 5 but only cause it has such effect on my life anymore anxity aint worth thinking about.
