how does ALCOHOL affect your SA?

[JudderMonkey]

Im in urgent need of help, this september ill be going to university and have recently found out ill be sharing a corridor with five other guys. I know they will all have had extravegant social lives with house parties clubs and millions of friends but iv not really had or done anything like that before. Currently im just happy doing what i like and i feel happy but i know that if i go to uni my life could just be over :evil: .
I remember all those week long school trips where by the end i was the loner sat in the corner whilst everyone was sat about chatting in groups. I just know if i go the other guys ill be living with will all be best mates after a matter of weeks and i could just be the outcast, since well be sharing a kitchen and our rooms are just a few feet from each other this could get extremely bad. Watching a few vids on youtube of where ill be staying made things worse they were all just joking about down the corridor and in the kitchen as if they were pretty close friends, and the type of people i think i would find it hard to interact with.

The only slim chance of happiness at university, i hope, is if i maintain drunkeness. A few years ago i got drunk and went to some party and was bored but quite comfortable. Even if i was drunk i doubt it would help me start up a conversation with anyone as we'll likely have very different interests and other people just seem to gel so easily together.


But can anyone just tell me how alcohol affects you in social situations, does it just make you feel comfortable or can you make friends whilst drunk?



any feedback is much appreciated :wink: i have till mid august to decide if ill be going.

 

[4seasons]

it makes my anxiety worse but at the same time it makes me not care.....and i also have a really short fuse, it doesn't take aslot to make me snap when im drunk. Don't start drinking just to be able to comterferable in social situations man, thats a good way to become an alchohoic.

 

[JudderMonkey]

thanks for your reply, it just seems though that the risk of becoming a social outcast outweighs the risk of becoming an alcoholic.
i dont drink right now but my fear of september is growing exponentially i just dont think i can face it sober id probably end up too terrified to leave my room.

 

[JurajCroatia]

No.Dont try alcohol to ease your fear.Modern medicine is a permanently solution! Better try Seroxat with Klonopin for a few months.
That combination cured me.

 

[4seasons]

^ Yeah look at all the other options you have. You might be able to get over it with a little conceling and not even need drugs.

 

[JurajCroatia]

Ok.But why are everyone so against the medicines? Its no big deal at all.You take one pill in the morning and another one before you go to sleep.You cant lose.You just can gain a life with no fear that you will faint next time you go to the mall...........


P.S.Sorry for my bad english

 

[4seasons]

Im not against medicene. Im just saying that conceling might help, you have to try that before medicene anyway. Some people becone very dependant on some medications and its hard for them to get off them. Im still not saying they are a bad thing, but i would rather get over something naturaly than have to pop pills for the rest of my life.

 

[prince1]

Ok.But why are everyone so against the medicines? Its no big deal at all.You take one pill in the morning and another one before you go to sleep.You cant lose.You just can gain a life with no fear that you will faint next time you go to the mall...........


P.S.Sorry for my bad english

Why's it say 'No drugs' in your sig if you did them two in a combination? :S

 

[JudderMonkey]

I eventually went to see my doctor a few months ago after id done some research on different medicines that helped with SA but i realy dont think he knew what SA was or believed i even i had a problem, he just gave a lecture on how anti depressants were bad.
i went back to see another doctor and it was just the same but she reffered me to some confidence counselor. I didnt go through with the counseling but a few weeks after that as there seemed to be no other option i went back, and he put me on some waiting list for CBT. But now i find out some people have waited years to get into CBT apparently :evil: .



hmm "Seroxat with Klonopin" ill have to look into that thanks for the tip im realy just looking for some sort of ice breaker till i feel comfortable enough to speak to them sober but ill see if my doc allows me to give this a try :wink:

 

[JurajCroatia]

Ok.But why are everyone so against the medicines? Its no big deal at all.You take one pill in the morning and another one before you go to sleep.You cant lose.You just can gain a life with no fear that you will faint next time you go to the mall...........


P.S.Sorry for my bad english

Why's it say 'No drugs' in your sig if you did them two in a combination? :S

Thats beacuse of my english.Where I live "the drugs" means heroin,cocaine,lsd and all that stuff that can fuc** up your life. (In America "drugs" can be also medicaments.) In my signature I ment to sayont take drugs such as mariujana to ease your pain.You have to understand me beacuse I dont live in a country where English is a first lunguage.

 

[Barnum]

I usually get more comfortable after a few beers, but I don't make any new friends as I always stick to the ones I know who are already there. It might "help" if I don't know anybody at the party, but I'd have to be absolutely shit-faced to even get there.

Sometimes, though, I just get depressed and find a quiet corner where I can sit and watch the others in quiet desperation. This usually happens when I fail to talk to anybody for more than 5 minutes.