How do you handle being given the "evil look"
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twiggle
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He's giving you the evil look for what sounds like no reason?
Give him the evils back. Let him see how it feels and above all, let him know that his cowardly method of trying to cause offense is not making you feel vulnerable (even if deep down it is).
(Disclaimer: I don't normally encourage mirrored retaliation, but I think in this case its fair enough. He sounds ignorant!)
Give him the evils back. Let him see how it feels and above all, let him know that his cowardly method of trying to cause offense is not making you feel vulnerable (even if deep down it is).
(Disclaimer: I don't normally encourage mirrored retaliation, but I think in this case its fair enough. He sounds ignorant!)
DespairSoul
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Popolala,
Oh yeah happened to me on daily basis with some sort of people. That's is main of the reasons why i ended isolated in my room how is day long. Evil/dirty looks are ruining my day
and entire days if happened so i can't stop thinking about it what happened and why happened and also that i wasn't doing nothing wrong??
He can be cranky from many reasons. Isn't like he hates u or have something agains u. Or maybe he does. So what? U can do two things ignore him or try greeting him. No says u must smile on him from the ear to the ear. What he did with door wasn't much polite but who knows what is going on his head. Maybe he had just bad day and need to put somewhere his madness, anger and the door was near by
He can be pissed off because he is less payed, because he argue with wife can be many reasons why he act like that. U are just the closes by for realizing his frustration. I know is hard but try just ignore him or make contact like say "hello" if he answer then maybe can this ices between u and him melt.
Oh yeah happened to me on daily basis with some sort of people. That's is main of the reasons why i ended isolated in my room how is day long. Evil/dirty looks are ruining my day
and entire days if happened so i can't stop thinking about it what happened and why happened and also that i wasn't doing nothing wrong??
He can be cranky from many reasons. Isn't like he hates u or have something agains u. Or maybe he does. So what? U can do two things ignore him or try greeting him. No says u must smile on him from the ear to the ear. What he did with door wasn't much polite but who knows what is going on his head. Maybe he had just bad day and need to put somewhere his madness, anger and the door was near by
He can be pissed off because he is less payed, because he argue with wife can be many reasons why he act like that. U are just the closes by for realizing his frustration. I know is hard but try just ignore him or make contact like say "hello" if he answer then maybe can this ices between u and him melt.
popolala
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hey Twiggie..
Well, its a long story, but not really .. i have tried to get to know him, but he wasnt even interested in talking to me at all. He just seriously doesnt like me 1 bit. I even confronted him once saying sorry for creating awkward tension.. which is embarrasing and brave of me, but still he behave this way. Even if i want to try and smile, i know it wont look like a smile, because im not happy to see him and it will never look genuine. :: .. but thanks!
DespairSoul
I dont understand why people would give you dirty look on a daily basis, its so wrong & so rude! If its random strangers i dont mind, but colleagues at work, are people i face alot.. so i think thats why it botthers me. I also end up isolating myself, i was at work one time and a colleague started to small talk with me, but because this mean guy was near me, i began to feel blank in my head and the conversation ended awkwardly.. yeah, didnt go well :: We shouldnt give these rude mean people power over our emotions. Today i was better, at work.. i did not think of his rudeness.. and was thinking of things that were more worth thinking of, i think it helped. I always thought i had the worse SA in the world, but i think we all think that because we dont know anyone like us. But its comfortin that we can share our feelings in here. Im glad i found this site! will always support my fella SA.. .. & thanks for help, will try to be brave!
Well, its a long story, but not really .. i have tried to get to know him, but he wasnt even interested in talking to me at all. He just seriously doesnt like me 1 bit. I even confronted him once saying sorry for creating awkward tension.. which is embarrasing and brave of me, but still he behave this way. Even if i want to try and smile, i know it wont look like a smile, because im not happy to see him and it will never look genuine. :
: .. but thanks! DespairSoul
I dont understand why people would give you dirty look on a daily basis, its so wrong & so rude! If its random strangers i dont mind, but colleagues at work, are people i face alot.. so i think thats why it botthers me. I also end up isolating myself, i was at work one time and a colleague started to small talk with me, but because this mean guy was near me, i began to feel blank in my head and the conversation ended awkwardly.. yeah, didnt go well :
: We shouldnt give these rude mean people power over our emotions. Today i was better, at work.. i did not think of his rudeness.. and was thinking of things that were more worth thinking of, i think it helped. I always thought i had the worse SA in the world, but i think we all think that because we dont know anyone like us. But its comfortin that we can share our feelings in here. Im glad i found this site! will always support my fella SA.. .. & thanks for help, will try to be brave!
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DespairSoul
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Popolala,
Well i don't understand either why anytime if i try socialize i meet someone who is giving me dirty look either. Main issue is i over analyze this to much. If i wasn't having SA i wasn't even not noticing kind of those stuff as "dirty looks". Everything is in my head or is really true. I would say is 50-50 some people really give me dirty look because they don't like me for some reasons even if they are strangers. Some people may have just bad day and i come to their way at the moment. Yep colleagues in work i had the same issue if i tried work before with sort of them.Some was haters of me coz they didn't had clue about my condition and taking me like annoying element. Well hypersensitivity don't help me either. I'm glad u did today well in work and did concentrate on him much and think about other stuff. Congrats to u so do on and u will see u feel better Take care about yourself.
Well i don't understand either why anytime if i try socialize i meet someone who is giving me dirty look either. Main issue is i over analyze this to much. If i wasn't having SA i wasn't even not noticing kind of those stuff as "dirty looks". Everything is in my head or is really true. I would say is 50-50 some people really give me dirty look because they don't like me for some reasons even if they are strangers. Some people may have just bad day and i come to their way at the moment. Yep colleagues in work i had the same issue if i tried work before with sort of them.Some was haters of me coz they didn't had clue about my condition and taking me like annoying element. Well hypersensitivity don't help me either. I'm glad u did today well in work and did concentrate on him much and think about other stuff. Congrats to u so do on and u will see u feel better
Take care about yourself.
popolala
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Popolala,
Well i don't understand either why anytime if i try socialize i meet someone who is giving me dirty look either. Main issue is i over analyze this to much. If i wasn't having SA i wasn't even not noticing kind of those stuff as "dirty looks". Everything is in my head or is really true. I would say is 50-50 some people really give me dirty look because they don't like me for some reasons even if they are strangers. Some people may have just bad day and i come to their way at the moment. Yep colleagues in work i had the same issue if i tried work before with sort of them.Some was haters of me coz they didn't had clue about my condition and taking me like annoying element. Well hypersensitivity don't help me either. I'm glad u did today well in work and did concentrate on him much and think about other stuff. Congrats to u so do on and u will see u feel better
Thanks! :
: ... i think your right, about if we didnt have SA we wouldnt think about this, i think its because we have SA, we isolate ourselve and have nothing better to think about than whats happening which is nothing much because we dont really have social life.. haha, but i gotten used to it. Im trying to concentrate on other things, it helps put my mind off sad thoughts.Even though i like it if we can all get along with everyone, i like to confront him.. but im just thinking that he is not obliged to like me, nor does he have to smile at me if he choose not to, so this is why i am not confronting him... i just gonna lvie in a sad world :
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DespairSoul
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Thanks! :
Even though i like it if we can all get along with everyone, i like to confront him.. but im just thinking that he is not obliged to like me, nor does he have to smile at me if he choose not to, so this is why i am not confronting him... i just gonna lvie in a sad world :
U are welcome
Give your best and u will see how will go. Good luck by it. Well is impossible go along with anyone. Because if someone choose don't like u have to accept it and not obsess about it. As Sa person is harder. I know where u are from
I try to make their head explode, a la Sheldon. It worked once.
