How do you cope with very little chance of socialising in school?

[Apple Strudel]

It seems like at work, everyone is so busy with their own jobs to even get to know each other. And what's more, they are split into just two's to fulfill a shift so socializing here is out of the question.

At school, we only had a headcount of like 5-10 people and sometimes a certain module is only like 4 people in total? I study in a really small private school.

I mean I have a job and I go to school but it's really funny that these two places are the places that are tops in socializing, yet I felt like i'm walking into an almost empty place akin to staying at home and just facing the internet.

Even logging onto the internet has so much space for interaction.

 

[klytus]

I was in a similar situation back in school. My private school had a total of 140 students, of which 7/8 were too young to socialize with, and the three most significant modules of my class were 3, 4 and 7 people. The thing is, if you don't happen to like them and they don't feel attracted to you, you won't have a chance at all to socialize there. Luckily it had been like this for only 2 years, then I graduated. At least they didn't bully me, like the others did in the public school before.

Persevere and/or look for other places where you might find people of the breed you like. I haven't, though, but then the city I lived in was way too small. The Internet is a good place for social interactions. The reason being that you need not go very far to find interest groups or places where people are innately similar to you. In addition to that, you don't have to socialize in person, which is a huge plus if you have a 'disorder' or two or are 'too shy'.

What are your interests? In case you live in a large(r) city, there is a good chance you can easily find groups for your interests.

 

[Apple Strudel]

I live in a small country. And the people here are mostly foreigners. It's so surreal. Anyways, I could relate to what you have just said.

At least they didn't pick on me like I had during my high school days. Actually after this, I was either planning to stay till I attain the highest level of certificate here OR enter into a public college where there are much more people hence my level of interaction increase and I have more chances of attracting the right people to me.

And ironically, i'm also pretty afraid of huge groups of people and crowds so i'm afraid I might revert back to victim status if I ever enter into a large college. But I don't really know.

I've been alone for many years since I entered high school and have always been tolerating the pangs of loneliness and I was actually a recluse (agoraphobic) for a good 3 years after graduation before I went out to look for a job with a very good internet friend of mine. Pathetic, since I can't even make friends in real life.

I see those people that laugh and joke freely in a group and going on exciting outings and overseas, whereas i'm stuck at a grubby retail job, paying off my private college fees and I start thinking is this really how I am going to live my life?