how do you calm yourself down?
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Scottish_Player
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Hey Shy_Girl, one thing that i helps calm me down is that i have a place i go to when i go for a drive its called Loch Lomond, there is a little spot i have that i just love and i feel so happy and at home there, so when i feel anxious about a situation like your talking about then i just picture myself in this place that brings me peace and tranquility and it does help 
frizboy
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Well now this is fairly recent for me, so don't quote me on this, but I've been doing breathing exercises everyday for about a week now for 30 minutes. Find a quiet room, especially with a bed, and lay down with the lights turned low. What you do is breath in deep through your nose and let the air fill up your belly. And you breathe it out. You can listen to soft music while you do all this. I find that it really calms me down. Also, flex and release each muscle in your body, from your toes to your face (including cheek muscles!), while you do your breathing exercises... toward the last 10 minutes or so. This teaches you to calm yourself down and control your body when you have an anxiety attack. You just breathe in deep again and you will experience the same calm.
Again, I can't say if this is the perfect solution, but it's working ok for me.
Again, I can't say if this is the perfect solution, but it's working ok for me.
Jack-B
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Hi shy_girl
I dont reckon you're shy, i reckon your quite brave.
You have to learn not to avoid this suffering. It comes from your mind, so its like running away from the unpleasant feelings of your mind. So when something provokes it, again it keeps appearing even if you are at home, you are still perceiving things with your mind.
So you need to build a resitance to this anxiety almost like watching the same scary movie again and again until it no longer frightens you. You need to face it, you cant outrun it because in your mind it will follow you wherever you go in life.
Removing yourself helps temporarily but if your bored with feeling like this you need to build the courage to face it and see whats rally making you so scared, anxious or whatever unpleasantness you feel.
Can you see how you want to run away from it? Of course you do, nobody wants to feel like this. So you try and distract yourself, of course it seems to help but its not the answer.
For situations where there are too many negative thoughts, just stop, turn your mind into stone where the water-like rapids of thoughts just flow past. Other times you can face you feelings, thats all they are. Let the storm of your mind blow over your cozy house where you are still by the fire. Find a place of stillness within, not 'out there', this will be far more rewarding.
Then in time you will no longer need to run away from these feelings or want to escape them, almost like becoming one with them, fully accepting, unafraid in any place in the world.
Jack
I dont reckon you're shy, i reckon your quite brave.
You have to learn not to avoid this suffering. It comes from your mind, so its like running away from the unpleasant feelings of your mind. So when something provokes it, again it keeps appearing even if you are at home, you are still perceiving things with your mind.
So you need to build a resitance to this anxiety almost like watching the same scary movie again and again until it no longer frightens you. You need to face it, you cant outrun it because in your mind it will follow you wherever you go in life.
Removing yourself helps temporarily but if your bored with feeling like this you need to build the courage to face it and see whats rally making you so scared, anxious or whatever unpleasantness you feel.
Can you see how you want to run away from it? Of course you do, nobody wants to feel like this. So you try and distract yourself, of course it seems to help but its not the answer.
For situations where there are too many negative thoughts, just stop, turn your mind into stone where the water-like rapids of thoughts just flow past. Other times you can face you feelings, thats all they are. Let the storm of your mind blow over your cozy house where you are still by the fire. Find a place of stillness within, not 'out there', this will be far more rewarding.
Then in time you will no longer need to run away from these feelings or want to escape them, almost like becoming one with them, fully accepting, unafraid in any place in the world.
Jack
mystic_silence
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Hi shy_girl,
I often have the same problem when I get constant flow of negative thoughts. What I found out that helps most is meditation. I been doing that for several months now and I have to say I regret for not knowing about it earlier. If youre interested here's a link:
http://home.att.net/~meditation/MeditationHandbook.html
I often have the same problem when I get constant flow of negative thoughts. What I found out that helps most is meditation. I been doing that for several months now and I have to say I regret for not knowing about it earlier. If youre interested here's a link:
http://home.att.net/~meditation/MeditationHandbook.html