Hello rachel!
I'm new here as well, but have been dealing with SA/SP for over 20 years.
Let's just say I have more experience in what NOT to do.
The best advice I can give is something most people who have SP on this forum have already done:
Be honest with yourself, and don't let things like pride or fear control what you do (or in my case repress).
I don't know the stats, but I imagine that for every one of us that has come to terms with it, there are several that haven't.
That is a major obstacle you have overcome by itself.