Hi, I've had extreme shyness (is it called social phobia now?) all my life, I'm now 41. I thought I had overcome it but realised that it never went away, I just managed to hide it having settled into comfortable situations. That realisation happened to me when I had to read out my oath when doing jury service. I wasn't even thinking about it when I had a sudden panic attack just before. It just feels so totally ridiculous to be like this.
The positive side of it - and this really helped with my career - is that you cannot survive, like most people do, on bull****. You have to be genuinely confident that when you say something, that it is right. That earns you respect and you will find it less necessary to rely on your poor social skills like most people do.
The negatives though far out weigh the positives but you all know about the those. The worst for me is that people simply don't understand the condition - and just think you are being arrogant or need to pull yourself together. That is one of the main reasons why I have never bothered to seek help to do anything about the condition.
Thats not true - the worst thing is the worry that you might pass this crippling condition onto your kids.
Anyway, hopefully here I will be amongst others that understand not just the problems but the few successes that seem so trivial to "normal people"!!
The positive side of it - and this really helped with my career - is that you cannot survive, like most people do, on bull****. You have to be genuinely confident that when you say something, that it is right. That earns you respect and you will find it less necessary to rely on your poor social skills like most people do.
The negatives though far out weigh the positives but you all know about the those. The worst for me is that people simply don't understand the condition - and just think you are being arrogant or need to pull yourself together. That is one of the main reasons why I have never bothered to seek help to do anything about the condition.
Thats not true - the worst thing is the worry that you might pass this crippling condition onto your kids.
Anyway, hopefully here I will be amongst others that understand not just the problems but the few successes that seem so trivial to "normal people"!!
