help??

[Hamboy]

I have alway as far as i can remember been scared of interacting with people simple things as asking for someting or having to say someting to someone. My mind goes blank and I freeze especially when put on the spot. I find it hard to hold conversations with people i don't know thoroughly. when i mean throughly- its people i've known for months and years and with whom i interact with dailly such as immediate family members. I dont know if there other people like me out there I don't know if it is just shyness or some full blown people phobia help?

 

[Reholla]

Hamboy: from what i can tell you may either have social phobia or extreme shyness. Either way, it may be something you are wanting to work at. Have a look at the other posts, and it may help you decide for yourself which it is.

The first thing I would suggest is do a search on the internet for social anxiety, and get familiar with the symptoms, and there may be suggestions on there as well.

Reading books really helped me have a better understanding of it. This is the first key to recovery. So i would suggest going to barnes and noble and checking out any books on anxiety. One thats helped me is "From Panic to Power" by Lucinda Bassett. Good luck

 

[Hamboy]

thanks for your advise. it's much appreciated as I always thought I was alone, or that I was an extremely rare case reading all the posts I realise how social phobia and shyness is so common. I don't feel alone anymore...

 

[Septor]

Welcome to Hamboy to spw.

I agree with Reholla on this.From what you said you either have sp or extreme shyness.

You should look around the forum and see if anyones experience sounds like yours.Do research online about social phobia and shyness.Then you should really talk to a therapist about your feeling regardless if it's extreme shyness or social phobia and see what he has to say about it because from the way it sounds like its affecting your life.

Remember you are never alone.There a lot of people that are going through what you are going through and there plenty of people here that are willing to listen to you.Good luck

 

[Hamboy]

thank you all for you super duper support. I never knew shuch a friendly support network existed I don't feel totaly alone anymore. I nice to know I can keep on smiling. through my fears. All of you are so cool. For someone who has few friends I am so happy.