Help me please
- Thread starter Emma
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Sacrament
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Do you really love him or were you blinded by the fact that he went out with you even though you have SA? I don't think he loves anyone but himself. Judging by what you say, he goes out with one girl and the next day he's doing the same thing with some other girl. He doesn't love, he just has fun. He dumped you and he'll probably do the same thing again if you give him the chance.
someoneelse
Active member
If I was in your place I would probably pursue the person. This is according to my own outlook on things. Even if signs looked as though it seemed that the person has moved on or is not interested anymore I would need a definite answer. Looking back on past relastionships I probably should have let the person go. It would have been probably healthier for me to do so.
Jack-B
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Hi Emma
I hope you are well.
"he broke up with me because of my social anxiety, he said other than that I was perfect for him"
Bingo!
You may feel that it's all your fault and be beating your self up about the fact that he couldn't accept you for who you are. Thats his problem not yours.
Then again, he may be splitting up with you because he feels it will be the best for you to focus on your self and this is his love to you in wanting you to be happy. Either way, you need now to focus on getting better and being more comfortable with who you are.
If you cannot be comfortable with your self, others will find it difficult to be with you because they wont know who you are or how to respond to you. They will find it hard to accept and your dependency on others will increase.
When you love someone and want them to be truely happy, fear dissapears naturally because love is such a powerful mind.
Goodbye, take care, i wish you well x no fear x
Jack
I hope you are well.
"he broke up with me because of my social anxiety, he said other than that I was perfect for him"
Bingo!
You may feel that it's all your fault and be beating your self up about the fact that he couldn't accept you for who you are. Thats his problem not yours.
Then again, he may be splitting up with you because he feels it will be the best for you to focus on your self and this is his love to you in wanting you to be happy. Either way, you need now to focus on getting better and being more comfortable with who you are.
If you cannot be comfortable with your self, others will find it difficult to be with you because they wont know who you are or how to respond to you. They will find it hard to accept and your dependency on others will increase.
When you love someone and want them to be truely happy, fear dissapears naturally because love is such a powerful mind.
Goodbye, take care, i wish you well x no fear x
Jack