HELP ME EMERGENCY!

[09876]

My gf is kicking me out I think because she has a phobia of living with people. Or, it acts up when she has too much stress. I have really bad anxiety or agoraphobia. I'm too afraid to go outside and I'm too afraid to go in buildings with people by myself. I will die if she kicks me out today.

I was in the process of getting help but, it takes so much time and my gf says she still loves me and wants to be with me but, she doesn't want anyone inside her house cause it's causing her to not eat and lots of stress. But, I can't handle going outside I know I will die I'm not ready for that.

I talked to everyone no one can help me. She keeps talking about sending me to a hospital but, I'm too afraid to go by myself. And she wants me to stay in one. I can't do that I'll flip out. I'd rather be outside and away from people somewhere. What can I do to make her feel comfortable so she let's me stay. I don't do anything wrong we argue sometimes that's about it. I always tell her nice things and do whatever I can for her. But, when she talks about me leaving I get really scarred because I will die and it gives her stress.

PLEASE HELP ME! I need some advice... This is my last day here.

 

[Jaded_Jester]

How long have you been living together? Have you had really bad anxiety the whole time? It kind of sound like she is getting overwhelmed by your problem, it sounds like you cling to her way too much. Have a serious conversation with her and discuss the real reasons she wants you out.

Make an effort to help yourself. Go for a walk, leave the apartment for a little while (we all know your pain, but the world won't end if you go to the cornerstore and back). Perhaps she is looking for you to make some effort to help yourself, without her holding your hand all of the time. That can be very overwhelming and draining on a person.

Good luck, and remember that you are not alone.

 

[09876]

I had anxiety this bad my whole life. I've been with her for 2 years. She knew what she was getting into. I told her I want to get help through medication and try theropy. I just can't do it alone and it is absolutly clear to her I can't. I don't bug her with my problems. And THIS is the real reason. She tells me she hasn't lived with anyone over 2 years.

She recently is working 2 jobs and goes to college so I know she has a lot of stress but, she's never around to here anything from me anyway. I told her I have friends that can bring me to get help but, that isn't good enough for here. Because she is fixated on me getting out. I know she works hard but, my life is seriously going to end if that happens.

I try to talk to her and she gets really mad at anything I say she's always angry. She gives me some really lame answers for things but, if that is all she says than what can I do? I'm sorry I just can't do it.

I did not live a normal life with "normal" circumstances. I had no one there for me ever. I was always tortured and raised literarly like an animal. No privacy, Must have permission to eat, piss, w/e, all my belongings were always serched. I lived a paranoid exsistance. I was threatened to be killed a lot. My mother never loved me seriously. My family was a bunch of mean perverted drunks. I had nothing. I never talked.

I just delt with too much shit ok. I'm not the average anxiety person. I know they all think that. But, I really know. I'm not trying to tell some stupid sob story. I had a really uniquely hard life. And right now I can not handle someone leaving me like this. I was on the road to help but I don't think that's the problem here. Well a bunch of people looked at this. I guess what can I expect there really is nothing to say. I just don't want to die that's all.

 

[Jaded_Jester]

Sorry if I caused you any offense, of course I would have no idea how rough you've had it in your life - I didn't mean to sound trivial.

Why do you think your life will end? That's all or nothing thinking to the 't'. I hope you have been taking up your friends' offer to go with you for some help, you have people in your life who are genuinely trying to help you - that's more than I can say.

Does your gf just want you out of her place or does she want the relationship to be over/ or have a break? Has she been clear on any of that? I mean if she is barely there anyways and it's been 2 years (which is quite a long time) then it seems pretty strange to all of a sudden get stressed out about it.

 

[09876]

My friend wont let me live with them just bring me to appointments. I haven't even got that far. I need to wait to get medicaid. My gf doesn't want to end the relationship if she did I would'nt try to stay. She just says she want her "space". I don't think it's normal woman talk like relationship trouble. I wasn't being stupid when I think she has a problem with living with people. She's jumped around all her life.

Well, at either 2pm or 10pm I'll get the get the "your giving me stress get out talk" And I'll just go. There is NOTHING I can do. She also has anorexia and says there's too much stress. How do you convince someone to eat? The relationship is really fine she says she can't handle someone living in her house I asked a million times what did I do... Nothing. A few arguements cause I don't want to die outside. She keeps saying it's just the fact someone is here that effects her she said it could be anyone. She's lived with her mother, father, grand mother, other people. She has a problem living with people. What can I do?

 

[Jaded_Jester]

That really sucks, did she at least give you fair warning? I mean how can she expect you to find a new place to live in a day (a Sunday no less). If there is nothing that you can do or say to change her mind as you suggest, then I think you'd better focus on what you will do next. Has she given you any suggestions about where you could go or what you can do next?

It sounds like she would benefit from seeing a therapist or her doctor about her own issues. Anorexia is a serious problem, and you're right you can't make her eat - she has to want to eat something. You can't help someone who is first unwilling to help themselves. Do you know why she has a problem living with people?