getting help

[steel_sparks]

hey everyone my names graham i have what i consider an average case of social anxiety if there is such a thing. i have been thinking about asking my friends in helping be become more confident and basically sociable, has anyone else done this before? did it help? should i ask them or is it easier to do this on my own? any help appreciated

Graham

 

[van_sp]

I don't know how you would have them aid you, but unless they are truly like brothers, it could backfire.
When you hang out in a group, that group has a certain dynamic. And if you change yourself, you also change that dynamic. People can depend on that dynamic as a reference on who they are, so if you change yourself, it changes their reference point on who they are. And they may want to bring you back down to the level they are comfortable with you being at.
It's VERY rare in this world to find friends who TRULY want the best for you. Everybody says it, and in their mind, they probably intend it, but when life plays out, the opposite is usually the case.

 

[jasmine32]

Hey

I agree with van_sp. The best thing is to help yourself. Don't rely on other people. Seek for the answers

 

[ggjjkk]

Therapy

If you want help with your social anxiety I wouldn't rely on your friends. Friends are ment to be friends, not full time councelors. Friends can act as councelors sometimes, don't get me wrong... but relying on some else that much can really way down on them and your relationship. I suggest seeking out professional help from an unbiased professional. Pychologists and therapists are trained for years on techniques for overcoming these types of fears.
A good place to go, should you seek therapy is
http://www.goodtherapy.org The website is basically an index of therapists with a unified vision toward positive therapy.

I hope this helps you out -

ggjjkk