Gay with SA

[Mactans82]

Honestly I'm not even possitive I have SA. A counselor I spoke to earlier this year said I probably had it but not too severely and I have been improving lately as far as friendships go. Having a few good friends how has actually made it easier to deal with other people. However, as far as romantic relationships go I still freeze up and essentially forget how to speak or move at the worst possible times. Either that or (and this is most often) completely avoid situations with people I could be attracted to.

I feel like it's more difficult also because I'm gay and so I want relationships with other girls. However, this adds stress to situations because, in addition to having a hard time approaching or talking to people in general, it's hard to be sure if a girl is interested in other girls. I was wondering how other gay or lesbian people with SA might deal with not being certain of someone's sexuality. I am always nervous that either girls I want to approach are straight or that, if I meet another lesbian and try to befriend her, she'll automatically think I'm intersted in her. Foolish, I know, but it's true.

 

[Emma]

Hmm, where are you from?

Around here (Newcastle) there's this thing on called Lesbian pizza night, if you're a lesbian you get free pizza, seriously, it's free!!!

 

[xkiss_me_nowx]

Honestly I'm not even possitive I have SA. A counselor I spoke to earlier this year said I probably had it but not too severely and I have been improving lately as far as friendships go. Having a few good friends how has actually made it easier to deal with other people. However, as far as romantic relationships go I still freeze up and essentially forget how to speak or move at the worst possible times. Either that or (and this is most often) completely avoid situations with people I could be attracted to.

I feel like it's more difficult also because I'm gay and so I want relationships with other girls. However, this adds stress to situations because, in addition to having a hard time approaching or talking to people in general, it's hard to be sure if a girl is interested in other girls. I was wondering how other gay or lesbian people with SA might deal with not being certain of someone's sexuality. I am always nervous that either girls I want to approach are straight or that, if I meet another lesbian and try to befriend her, she'll automatically think I'm intersted in her. Foolish, I know, but it's true.

Im bisexual, and i feel exactly the same way with girls !
it is almost as if you was describing my problems there, but when it comes to girls im attracted too, i usually find it hard to talk to them, and im always unsure as to whether there interested, or whether there straight etc. but yeah, i totally get what youre saying.