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beachbum
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I can relate
Hi aliasgirl,
I know what you are talking about in terms of SP holding you back from dating. I am a 26 year old woman and have gone on very few dates. Last year at college, there was this guy who had a class in the same building as my class and he always starred at me when I walked by. I think I intimidated him though because if we passed each other in the hallway, he would not stand up straight, but look down at the floor. I wanted so badly for him to talk to me but he never did. I was going to approach him on several occasions but I always chickened out because I was afraid I would make a fool out of myself. The semester came and went whithout either of us making a move. I was dissapointed with myself because I let my SP get in the way and because that was the first time a good looking guy has given me the time of day.
So don't beat yourself up over the fear of dating or meeting new people. I think everyone who has SP has had this fear and purposely avoid these situations.
Good Luck
Hi aliasgirl,
I know what you are talking about in terms of SP holding you back from dating. I am a 26 year old woman and have gone on very few dates. Last year at college, there was this guy who had a class in the same building as my class and he always starred at me when I walked by. I think I intimidated him though because if we passed each other in the hallway, he would not stand up straight, but look down at the floor. I wanted so badly for him to talk to me but he never did. I was going to approach him on several occasions but I always chickened out because I was afraid I would make a fool out of myself. The semester came and went whithout either of us making a move. I was dissapointed with myself because I let my SP get in the way and because that was the first time a good looking guy has given me the time of day.
So don't beat yourself up over the fear of dating or meeting new people. I think everyone who has SP has had this fear and purposely avoid these situations.
Good Luck
Diluted_Acid
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Lol your story made me chuckle, and i found it even funnier because i could relate quite a bit to what you were sayin and that i'm a guy. Ah well it's nice you don't seem to take this too much at heart . . . . i'm thinkin, so i think it's up to you now if you like this guy, to get the courage and talk to him. Mind due, it's nice to see you've got friendly female work mates, regardless that they may misunderstand your SP. I don't really know what i can say or recommend if you want to talk to this man, however i will say . . . . what ever you do, play it timid, act shy, nervous or whatnot . . . but try avoid looking disinterested, disgusted, bored, because you would be suprised how many guys are actually accepting towards females who are socially anxious. All the best!
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omg what a stalker! lol, just imagine if you did go out with him and then you wanted to brake up, how many times he would call, email, visit your work, send you texts, follow you in his car, harass your work colleagues hahah some how i think this guy has trouble getting the message :roll: hehe funny story
skins
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I know what you mean, but always remember that about 10% of the population will suffer from sp at some point in there lives, so there is always a chance of meeting someone like that who truly understands you.
I don’t think its true that most people want someone who is a fully functional human being who can socialise easily. Even before my social phobia developed, I have been pretty shy my whole life and have always been more interested in the quieter types anyway. As a guy I can say I reckon most guys are more likely to be put off by the loud extrovert types because they are more intimidating, critical and demanding etc so I don’t think you will have a problem, and the guys that can’t come to terms with it you don’t want to be around anyway. Theres a lot of introvert types out there so I really do think the chances are not that bad of finding the right person for you. Good day
I don’t think its true that most people want someone who is a fully functional human being who can socialise easily. Even before my social phobia developed, I have been pretty shy my whole life and have always been more interested in the quieter types anyway. As a guy I can say I reckon most guys are more likely to be put off by the loud extrovert types because they are more intimidating, critical and demanding etc so I don’t think you will have a problem, and the guys that can’t come to terms with it you don’t want to be around anyway. Theres a lot of introvert types out there so I really do think the chances are not that bad of finding the right person for you. Good day