sevenroses
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For those who know a lot about CBT what is your best coping statement? Thanks
For those who know a lot about CBT what is your best coping statement?
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KiaKaha
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I took CBT all the way back in 2005, and still use it, although I am far from "cured". I think the biggest thing that I learned was my distorted thinking patterns (mind reading, seeing things in black and white, using "should" statements etc...) and countering those thoughts with logical and reasonable assertions. For example if I think someone is rejecting me, for whatever reason, I would then mentally list possible reasons that are not...eg, maybe they are having a bad day and its nothing personal, or that they think maybe I am rejecting them... thats just one example but you get the gist I hope..
A really good book you should try is the feeling good handbook, its got tons of cbt stuff in it that really helps, its a like a pocket psychiatrist..
A really good book you should try is the feeling good handbook, its got tons of cbt stuff in it that really helps, its a like a pocket psychiatrist..
sevenroses
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I might check it out thanks 
I don't really have specific coping statements but I do have several general thoughts that I go back to when I'm having a tough time. It's usually something like:
I've been through this before and it's gotten better. Tomorrow is another chance, just don't avoid. If I can confront the anxiety even when gripped by tremendous fear it will just give me more confidence for later. I know I've progressed and I'm not going to allow the anxiety to win now.
I've been through this before and it's gotten better. Tomorrow is another chance, just don't avoid. If I can confront the anxiety even when gripped by tremendous fear it will just give me more confidence for later. I know I've progressed and I'm not going to allow the anxiety to win now.
ripewithdecay
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Pretty much anytime you're thinking about going somewhere that causes anxiety (say you need to go to the mall alone or someplace like that), i used to use this simple statement:
"Maybe it won't be that bad."
By using 'maybe' you're giving your brain a neutral statement. Because your mind does not believe positive statements at first... so if you were to say something like "It's going to be fine, i'm going to be alright!" you're setting yourself up with expectations, whereas if you just say "Well.. maybe it won't be as bad as I think it will be." it's a much more rational statement and your brain has a better chance of actually believing it.
Sorry if that didn't make much sense
"Maybe it won't be that bad."
By using 'maybe' you're giving your brain a neutral statement. Because your mind does not believe positive statements at first... so if you were to say something like "It's going to be fine, i'm going to be alright!" you're setting yourself up with expectations, whereas if you just say "Well.. maybe it won't be as bad as I think it will be." it's a much more rational statement and your brain has a better chance of actually believing it.
Sorry if that didn't make much sense