For those of you who...

[Iseesky]

...have succeeded in relationships. I need some help My SA is getting much much better, but I still clam up around guys and get the gorgeous tomato red face. In particular the ones I find to be attractive. I know many people here have had, or are in relationships so clearly it can happen. But, how? I just don't seem to be able to talk to guys. They talk to me, but I reply back with short answers and I feel like they think I'm a snob. With your boyfriend, or ex-boyfriend...was it a love at first sight type deal? I mean, did you immediately feel comfortable with him? Or, did it take awhile to build up courage to talk to him? I feel like there are some guys I'm completely comfortable around. They don't take any 'getting used to' or anything of the sort. I'd much rather have SA around girls than guys

Thanks!

 

[Atlantis]

It might be easier for you, since you are a girl and usually the guys make the first move... but I won't judge, I can be completely mistaken... I can't really say you are in a good situation. We never know.


About the red face... don't trouble yourself because of that. You don't need to be perfect to get what you want. Guys can find that red face cute... its nice when you notice a girl being blushed because of you. They feel great, like if they have power or something. and after all they need a sign to know you like them. A red face can make them feel more confortable to talk to you.


About what you said about immediatly feeling comfortable at the sight of someone... I don't think it happens that way, I think it takes time to get used to the person. You are right at some point.... there is different people and some people will really pass to you a more intense sensation of safety than others. So thats not something to ignore.


But you must give the person a chance. I think you feel more comfortable in the measure the person understands you feel so unconfortable near them.