female sexuality and sa

[carebear]

I don't know..it seems like it is okay for guys to be shy and reserved because it adds a mysterious side, but when females are shy and reserved they are just called prudes. 8O
This is my opinion...as females (and especially nowadays), we are suppossed to be highly sexual and have bubbly personalities in order to be accepted into mainstream culture. If not we are not this just fall into the background-which makes it even harder to overcome depression/anxiety because you cannot really practice interacting with people..they simply don't know you exist or don't care because they consider you to be sexually repressed.
anyone else catch my drift?

please///i need to hear back on this one...

 

[dzerklis]

no its the other way around.

 

[cLavain]

Dzerklis speaks the truth.

 

[carebear]

but being shy for a guy is sexy in my opinion!! I don't know if any of you are a james dean or morrissey fan but if you look at both of their images, they were/are shy guys with personal issues and women still consider them attractive. ie, morrissey, at his prime in the smiths had women drooling over him. i cannot think of a female contender.

the role of women is to be sexual and men, in my opinion, have a sexual consumer role. they take in all the messages and react. this could explain why two women making out is more sexually attractive to society than two men making out or why pornography is more popular among men than women.

again..thoughts please!! 8O :wink:

 

[LA-girl]

the role of women is to be sexual and men, in my opinion, have a sexual consumer role.
again..thoughts please!! 8O :wink:

I don't really get this...Can not a girl be shy and still be sexy?
I really don't see there has to be a condradiction. Shy girls can be mysterious and have sex-appeal just like men!
It just depends on each individuals taste...

 

[decadeOfSA]

but being shy for a guy is sexy in my opinion!! I don't know if any of you are a james dean or morrissey fan but if you look at both of their images, they were/are shy guys with personal issues and women still consider them attractive. ie, morrissey, at his prime in the smiths had women drooling over him. i cannot think of a female contender.

the role of women is to be sexual and men, in my opinion, have a sexual consumer role. they take in all the messages and react. this could explain why two women making out is more sexually attractive to society than two men making out or why pornography is more popular among men than women.

again..thoughts please!! 8O :wink:

well it works for me. I can get women easily, but have a hard time with long term relationships because of SA. I get comparisons to James Dean a lot #1 cuz I kinda look like him and #2 act like him being shy etc.

 

[decadeOfSA]

the role of women is to be sexual and men, in my opinion, have a sexual consumer role.
again..thoughts please!! 8O :wink:

I don't really get this...Can not a girl be shy and still be sexy?
I really don't see there has to be a condradiction. Shy girls can be mysterious and have sex-appeal just like men!
It just depends on each individuals taste...

I tend to like shy women more.

 

[romeno82]

hi, i think a lot of women like shy guys. or better call them reserved guys? i think shy people give you a sense that they are honest to you and also a sense of respect. i have seen it a lot of times, girls are interested in shy/reserved people.

i as a male, i like shy women, but not too shy. important for me is, that women have a sense of style.

 

[Diluted_Acid]

This threads pretty interesting . . . . Carebear i personally believe sa is just as bad for guys as it is for girls, and believe you me, communication is an important tool to guys as well . . . . believe it or not lol. I would like to say i prefer shy girls, but i tend to fall for the loud types who also tend to have problems like alot of us, only more family, drinking, drug related problems.

 

[Jaded_Jester]

I agree with Carebear,

I always wear baggy clothes because I don't like the extra attention I get when my clothes fit properly. So my boobs are big - so what? It doesn't change who I am. I'm so sick of people telling me to "flaunt it" that just draws even more unwanted attention. (Maybe if I had some self confidence I wouldn't care, but I still have a long way to go in that department.)

 

[carebear]

thanks for your thoughts on this guys..from the responses I am getting I guess its safe to conclude that relaitonships are difficult for both sexes-and partners are based more on individual taste. i've been out of the dating scene for so long...but I have spent time studying gender roles (in college and read a lot about it).

jj-I felt the same way about my body growing up. In high school I wore all the baggy clothes to hide my figure and I was even diagnosed with a mild form of anorexia. luckily, it never got too serious. i found myself wanting to rid all the curves of my body. all curves were bad..yes..even boobs (even though I never had large ones). it's like subconciously i was trying to hide all female traits from men because it gave me too much attention. then when i found i got too much attention being thin, i went to the other side and ate more (which would explain my avatar :wink: ). now i'm just medium sized.
ohhhh i don;t know...girls will be girls and boys will be boys i guess... :roll:

 

[Clark_Kent]

Shy girls are my favorite it makes seem more sensitive and feminine which they probably are, but then i like my women feminine, kind caring on the other hand i think too may women think of quiet shy men as a wus and not mausculine. I can see the logic in this not that i like it.

 

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