Feel like giving up :(

SweetCupcake

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I've always wanted nothing more than to get married and have a loving husband and kids. The reality is, even though I'm still only 19, it will probably never happen. I can't even work, or leave the house by myself. I feel like a helpless child and the only friend I have is my dog.::(:
I hoped that by now I would have already achieved these dreams, but I've made no progress and I'm just as socially retarded as before. I don't know how long I can just go on. And if i hear of another of my mothers friends getting married or having a baby I will ****ing blow my brains out.::(:
 

Felgen

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You're just 19--which means that you've got at least another 20 years to have kids and the rest of your life to get married. I had a perfectly normal teacher once who got married for the first time in her life in her mid fifties.
 
Hey, come now. Take a few deep breaths. It's totally okay to feel jealous and hopeless in your situation. You've probably got all right to. :3

But there's nothing keeping you from achieving your dream life eventually. Why rush there? You've got plenty of time to think things through. Remember, it's a dream, not a goal to which you race to. Let it grow. First, concentrate on solving issues that are affecting you at this time. You can't solve a lifetime of problems in just a day, so why try? Just take it day by day, step by step. Otherwise it'll surely overwhelm you..

I know it's hard to see others achieve things you've only dreamt about, but first you'll have to get your own life in order, before you can invite others into it. But don't use that as a dread message, use it as motivation. Because you can do it. Everyone can. :3

In my time here, I've witnessed some people turn their life around completely. I fully trust that you can do the same.
 

Kato

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I felt very similar a quarter century ago. (Had to say it that like that, makes me seem old. I need to get use to it. LoL) Sometime while being a teenager I began getting stuck in that situation. That painful life lasted for about ten years. Nothing really changed until I got professional opinions and guidance. Now I have built much more stability in my life. Life really can have seriously painful experiences. I guess they can be a driving force in growing our lives so that we avoid pain in one way or another. Unfortunately we have much more pain than the average man or woman. I sure have a propensity to avoid everything all together. I think I have been learning it since I began understanding the severe criticism I received as a child.

I wanted to give you my perspective, hoping it might help. Yours helps remind me of how much I have changed and hurt along the way.
Thank you for sharing:) I hope life gets easier on you soon.
 

just wanna b normal

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its all in the way you think you feel like these people are judging you or what not. stop thinking negative thoughts. think positive love yourself & accept yourself no matter what others think.
 
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