Facial blushing help!!!!!!!!

[i want a better life]

Hi let me introduce myself. I have been suffering with facial blushing and sweating, since high school, and have been living with this hoping that eventually it would just sort itself out and it would allow me to get on with my life. The first major time it happened i can remember, was in class where my work was commented by a girl and then it was like i had just run a marathon or something.. Not good.

heres the problem i have i can be totally fine one day and the next i blush at every little thing. It tends to happen when i am tried, and when it is hot, such as when I go in to a shop and the heating is on. It also happens when i am made the centre of attention but again only in certain situations, and as you can imagine when you start to blush and sweat although people say just do not focus on it, then the only thing you can do is focus on it.

When this happens, it really gets me down and at one stage in my life, when i had finished uni and got my degree, i couldn't see a job i could do involving graduate jobs, as i would read through all the jobs and read excellent communication skills needed or face to face customer service required. As a result i got really depressed and after being pestered by my family eventually got a part time job. I am not as depressed and am actively trying to force myself to improve myself.

I feel i am losing out on life, because i try to avoid social situations involving people i dont know really well. My ambitions are to travel around the world and maybe get a job in the leisure industry as a fitness instructor, however i feel i need extra help before i can take this next step in my life.

It just feels like a struggle when i am faced with people and i get unnecessarily hot and have to try and limit conversation to a minimum to stop this but again i can be fine talking to one person one minute and then not the next.

Any advice and steps to take would be great, as i want to get on with life.......

 

[danstelter]

There is a ton of things that you can do! Ignoring the problem, as you have noted when you say that "I just tried to let it sort itself out," has not worked.

Rather, you need to specifically address the issue in a direct manner. It certainly sounds like social anxiety, based on the details you have provided.

Two good ways to address anxiety include exercising regularly for twenty minutes three times per week, and also eating a healthy diet that includes lots of vitamin B6, magnesium, and water; also avoid caffeine and alcohol as they increase anxiety.

This is a very good step to take in your life right now, and congratulations on taking it!

There are additional ways of treating this anxiety like getting counseling (VERY beneficial for me) and going on medication (if you really think that you want to do it).

Start with that, and let us know what the results are! Or, send me PM's if you would like further advice!