hi crash,
i understand what you mean. it would be nice to find someone especially if you could confide in them and share your innermost secrets. but what happens when that person is not around. i am married, but yet many times i feel lonely. because my partner cant give me everything i need. he can encourage me and listen and be understanding, but its ultimately up to me to make changes and overcome social phobia.
i think inside of you, you have the strength and the will power to deal with scoial phobia, even without a soul mate. regardless i do hope you find a companion.