don't talk to grandparents?
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Lotrsfan
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Yea, i am :lol: i don't have grandads but i have a nan that we go up to see every so often to stay, and i get shy around her, i get uncomfortable when i'm in a room with her on my own, coz i know i would have to say something to avoid an ackward silence. But then i don't really know what to say to her and she's quite an outgoing loud nan lol. So i just talk to her when she asks me something, and i keep the answer short
And i have a Gran, but she's deaf, so it would be a waste of breath having a conversation with her coz she can't hear and me having to repeat things over and over, which isn't going to be good for me, coz i'd get all tongue-tied.
I also get shy round my Uncle's and Aunties too, and coz i don't see them very often.
And i have a Gran, but she's deaf, so it would be a waste of breath having a conversation with her coz she can't hear and me having to repeat things over and over, which isn't going to be good for me, coz i'd get all tongue-tied.
I also get shy round my Uncle's and Aunties too, and coz i don't see them very often.
Septor
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I was like that with my grandmother to when I was younger.I really never saw her much so she more of a stranger to me.So I was always scared of her.
Although I have not seen her in 9 years I have talk to her on the phone and she at that stage where she cant remember what happen 6 minuets ago but can remember what happen when she six.She does not seem so scary know.Bless her soul.
Although I have not seen her in 9 years I have talk to her on the phone and she at that stage where she cant remember what happen 6 minuets ago but can remember what happen when she six.She does not seem so scary know.Bless her soul.
IceLad
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My family is very fragmented due to arguments and grudges (that probably hasn't helped my social anxiety!).
I haven't seen my only surviving grandparent for quite some time. I do remember making a tremendous effort to go and see them a few years back, and me being a nervous wreck during my visit.
I think its terrible how social anxiety can wrap itself around you so much, that even seeing your relatives is a highly challenging experience.
:roll:
I haven't seen my only surviving grandparent for quite some time. I do remember making a tremendous effort to go and see them a few years back, and me being a nervous wreck during my visit.
I think its terrible how social anxiety can wrap itself around you so much, that even seeing your relatives is a highly challenging experience.
:roll:
i don't have any grandparents left 
...but...i was much less shy with them than i was with my own parents...or any other relatives...and now, i am still less scared to talk to old people than any other age.....and people right around my own age?....that freaks me out the most for some reason :roll:
...but...i was much less shy with them than i was with my own parents...or any other relatives...and now, i am still less scared to talk to old people than any other age.....and people right around my own age?....that freaks me out the most for some reason :roll:
Boundless
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I talk to my nan occasionaly,when she talks to me anyway.Its funny as she goes through 3 or 4 other names before she gets mine right :roll: also i noticed she never says goodbye to any one when putting the phone down :s
I doubt she would understand me if i started to talk to her about my issues.
I doubt she would understand me if i started to talk to her about my issues.
scatmantom
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lol my nan used to be like that, always gave me the wrong name, my mum has started doing it now tho :?
Reholla
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lol this question is interesting.
I have one set of grandparents who Ive never known, they died before I was born. But my others I'm fairly close with.
But everytime i do see them I get extra anxiety just because you dont see them on a regular basis, and you feel like you SHOULD be close w/ them. So that adds to the pressure. Like you SHOULD feel comfortable around them but dont.
And for mine, anway I have pressure that I need to like impress them, and make them proud of me.
I have one set of grandparents who Ive never known, they died before I was born. But my others I'm fairly close with.
But everytime i do see them I get extra anxiety just because you dont see them on a regular basis, and you feel like you SHOULD be close w/ them. So that adds to the pressure. Like you SHOULD feel comfortable around them but dont.
And for mine, anway I have pressure that I need to like impress them, and make them proud of me.