Don't know what to do

[Kat24601]

I guess I just need to vent a little but....I'm ok sitting around with my friends and family but if my friends or anyone else tries to hug me I get REALLY nervous I don't like people touching me. So I guess what I'm worried about is if this nervousness will affect my life when I find my significant other. I can't imagine having a bf and not wanting to hug...it'd be offensive to them i think, cause you're supposed to want to touch and stuff right? I've gone through Cognitive behavior and that's helped with going places but not this...I just don't know what to do I'm afraid this is really going to hold me back on something wonderful one day.

 

[sabbath92002]

I guess I just need to vent a little but....I'm ok sitting around with my friends and family but if my friends or anyone else tries to hug me I get REALLY nervous I don't like people touching me. So I guess what I'm worried about is if this nervousness will affect my life when I find my significant other. I can't imagine having a bf and not wanting to hug...it'd be offensive to them i think, cause you're supposed to want to touch and stuff right? I've gone through Cognitive behavior and that's helped with going places but not this...I just don't know what to do I'm afraid this is really going to hold me back on something wonderful one day.

Hi Kat, welcome to SPW!

Don't worry, when you have a boyfriend I'm sure you and he will want to hug, hug, hug.

 

[JonnyD]

welcome

hmm, i don't like beign touched either, but when is someone very close to me it's alright, but need to be veeeeery close. or else i get nervous.

i don't know much about therapy, but i think you should find what exactly makes you nervous, then you'll be able to understand a little more your problem.

many hugs to you

 

[GloomySunday]

I generally don't like being touched but don't make a big deal out of it. My family know I'm not comfortable with it so don't hug me or anything. That said, if I'm with a lover or girlfriend then I can be quite the opposite...so, I guess it's a case of saving it for someone I really want to touch or be touched by. That makes it more special.