don here, new member -- 17 yrs. old, s.a.d. victim

[btnh_are_the_sheet]

hey, i've spotted this forum about a month ago and thanked god because some of ur guy's problems reflect mine (not exactly but quite similar)

i have quite of a few problems concerning my social anxiety disorder that i feel i need to dish out (although i am seeking therapy now, not everything i can let out the same way i can on here)

...well to start things off is there anyone on here who just can't speak up???
like seriously... meaning you have to be literally right infront of someone to let them know something -- and even if u are sometimes they don't make out what u say the first time (maybe even the second possibly third), i have a deep voice and can be really loud, nothing about my voice is impaired by the way

i'll dwell onto this issue in further detail if anyone can relate

 

[Chilling__Echo]

hey, do you have people you can look to for support? like your parents? significant other? friends? it helps especially when you're seeking therapy. you might need your parents to get it. i know alot don't have the option to speak their woes to anyone else.

and welcome

 

[btnh_are_the_sheet]

oh my bad, didn't mean to say "seeking therapy" i've actually been seeing a psychiatrist for the past few months ---my mistake, but thx though chilling echo

 

[Chilling__Echo]

oh ok, i've gotcha. so do your parents know how you feel? my mom does but my dad doesn't b/c he wouldn't understand. but now i'm about to move out of the house and go to school completely on my own and see someone by myself (i'm 20)

 

[btnh_are_the_sheet]

my parents know i have a problem but they don't truly know how i feel but my dad claims as if he does and says he gets like me sometimes which is totaly untrue (just by the fact he has 7 kids, had multiple social jobs, traveled to different countries because of him being in the air force, able to voice his opinion whenever till this day and such) because if he got like me and knew how i felt then he'd be able to approach my problem in a senseable way, although he tries to show he cares it does the opposite for me and drives me extremely nutts, don't want to dwell into anymore specific detail but that sums up my parents understanding with my s.a.


--good luck finding someone and with your school there
:wink:

 

[PunkyMonkey]

Hi ....hearing about your dad reminds me of my own dad. My mom was really quiet and knows a little of how I've felt, but my dad doesn't. He comes in my room and tries to give me long supportive, uplifting talks. I appreciate it and all, but it ends up making me feel much, much worse. He always tells me how much he had to move around when he was a kid and how he had to meet all new people, and all of his brilliant ways of doing that. Oh well, I can't describe what it's like. It doesn't help and it only shuts me up in trying to talk to my parents about anything.

My dad would have no idea what it's like to be able to speak out to someone three feet away from him. That's my problem. I just can't stand the thought of trying to say something and having the person not hear me. I can't just speak up, somehow trying to speak further only makes me quieter. I can only really speak if I'm sure that I will be heard. It's a real problem with my job right now too.

 

[Chilling__Echo]

ah ok, well, at least they're accepting of it. it's a whole nother cans o' worms when they don't. and thanks. has therapy helped you?

 

[btnh_are_the_sheet]

... ... I can only really speak if I'm sure that I will be heard. It's a real problem with my job right now too.

same here, it interferes with my job greatly it would be much easier on me (life in general even) if i was just able to say "hey so, and so, can you hand me that over there?" or whatever instead of having to walk up and tapping the person on the shoulder or wait 5 minutes until they're done talking with whoever there talking to
but thankfully, me and my therapist have been discussing a plan to attack this problem of mine

ah ok, well, at least they're accepting of it. it's a whole nother cans o' worms when they don't. and thanks. has therapy helped you?

very true, and yes i've been seeing a gradual change in myself eversince i've been going to therapy 8) [/b]

 

[Thelema]

I'm 17 (almost 18 ) I know how you feel. First year in high school the teacher asks me to read out loud from a book and I do and he waits until the end and says "could anyone understand him?" I thought I was reading it in my normal voice but I was reading with a really low voice because I was nervous I do it when somebody I don't know or barely know talks to me my voice gets really low and nobody can understand me or I won't speak loud enough but with my friends and people I know I talk just fine. With girls it's even worse my mind goes completely blank and the only words I can think of are yeah, no, and I donno with either a really low voice or barely make any sound at all.

 

[rko74]

help for this

What would help for the speech difficulties? I have this also, i dont have an impediment but more articulation and hesitancy of speaking to people.